He broke up with me suddenly last Sundayover the phone.So you can imagine how shocked I was.We were together 18 mths. I have turned to friends and family and have been in pain for the week. This pain must mean something, maybe that I love him. Now that he has hurt me so much I obviously have doubts about everything. However I may have been difficult with him on Friday and Saturday, we were just geting some jobs done, but he said I was being bossy.I feel that we need to have a conversation and I'd like to tell him how much I appreiated him, and to thank him for doing the jobs. The thing is though, I have showed him several times that I cared and have treated him well for
b-days and x-mas etc. I'd love to know how he is feeling now as it may have been quite a sudden hasty decision. We were due to go to a wedding shortly. I did miss him a lot when he would go to his parents often. Sometimes I would cry,I missed him so much.This is either a make or break situation, and I need advice.Thks
2007-02-16 21:57:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
give it time stop blaming yourself he was not perfect. Don,t belittle yourself apologising too much. accept its over in time you will see it differently. i felt the same a few months back, keep busy you,ll forget him quicker.
2007-02-16 22:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by denny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what advice you are looking for. I do agree the two of you do need to talk. You obviously have some unanswered questions, and would like to know if he really wants to break up, or if he was just feeling frustrated due to your bossiness. I would call him, and ask him if we could meet for coffee, and go from there. Be prepared to hear that it is over, because for him it very well may be. After 18 months, it won't be easy for either of you, but may be necessary if he's not happy in the relationship.
Good luck, I hope all works out for you.
2007-02-16 22:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by Speedy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's treating you like this, how is he going to treat you when or, if your married. Is he going to subjugate to and, make you kow tow or else. Maybe your finding out something about him you didn't see before, another side of the coin. Maybe your lucky.
Why don't you try and get your mind off this for awhile and let things cool down. If he doesn't come to you then you'll know, after all these months your relationship didn't mean anything to him. He was using you.
If you do get together again, I suggest some ground rules, like treating you like a lady with respect, not a dog that has to be told when to "sit" to "walk" etc.
2007-02-16 22:11:22 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not call him.
He knows exactly how you've treated him...and he finally decided it wasn't worth putting up with you. Leave him alone...take some time to heal and move on. You can't bully him back. If he regrets this "hasty" decision, he'll call you. Chances are though that he's been thinking about it for weeks...and finally decided to go ahead and do it, so you're not going to "talk him into" getting back together. Leave him alone.
2007-02-16 22:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by Captain Jack 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has already broken up with you so move on with your life. It may take a while for you to feel better and to dry your tears. Sometimes men call a woman bossy when she is trying to voice her opinion. This may also just be an excuse he is using to break things off.
2007-02-16 22:07:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in the similar situation now. He suddenly texted me that he was too tired to come down for Thanksgiving, right before Thanksgiving dinner on Thanksgiving day. It has been 5 days he dissapeared. All my affords to contact him failed. Now I confirmed to myself that he is a yerk, I pray that I will keep my head up and move on
2013-12-02 15:26:30 · answer #6 · answered by Dante Franklin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say to hell with him yet which would be only advise of me. first you're able to think of roughly why his father and mom try to interrupt yall up. did somebody sleep with somebody else. yall have been given caught having intercourse in the housem, and yall wasnt assume to, what? some thing went incorrect and the father and mom disapprove of you. yet while he loves u, he wouldnt provide a damn whats his father and mom would say. yet while yall are like 2 yrs old, and have been given in difficulty for doing some thing, somebdy needs to ask for forgiveness to somebody. or soemthing. i dunno what the story is, so u incredibly cant get any help approximately thins. if he's unswerving to his parens (mama boys), then you definately ought to forget approximately with reference to the relationship continuing.
2016-11-23 14:39:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he broke up with you suddenly, you do deserve at least one conversation with him to talk.
You need to understand why? So talk him as soon as possible, so there's no misunderstanding.
2007-02-16 22:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by Shai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats really sad
maybe try and give him some alone time to think things out before you talk to him
good luck
2007-02-16 22:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once u get back with someone after a break up its never good....
2007-02-16 22:05:52 · answer #10 · answered by ninjagal3000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋