i agree with the fact that i deserve better, he could be leading me on, he is losing not me but i have allowed myself to fall in love. and it is so odd that everytime i am almost to the point that i can get on without him he starts calling, wanting to see me, its like we have this bond and when one is weak the other is there to reinforce it...i am confused is this because we are truly menat to be together or just he senses when im moving on, went out on a date first since i moved here...almost 6 months ago, i called him and when he asked what i was doing i was honest and told him my plans, i can tell he was upset, disappointed and hurt, but hge still says he is not ready and its almost the year to the day, is he afraid, he and the adimit ex were talking quite a bit (inside sources) but she has nothing on me i am smart, beautiful, wife material,eduacted and have goals, i told him that i love him but on the anniversary if there is not change i want no futher contact.. i quit cold turkey
2007-02-16 21:05:25 · 5 answers · asked by Klassy_03 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i know i know I TRULY LOVE HIM i dont knw what to do....but i dont know how to end it when he calls i answer i thought about changing my number...
2007-02-16 21:39:29 · update #1
we hav been together a year...maybe i mis stated that or left that out...my emotion are at the reigns leading the horse right now true....but i know he cares for me deeply its just that he has this mind frame that you have to be 30 to get marrried and about 26 before a relationship and probably 28 eore the proposal...the ex girlfriend i know i have tops on her...but there are things that she does that i wont (not sexual just in general) i feel i am not stuck on myself just know that i deserve better and trying to work through this by seeking answers...i need constructive reinforcement....I must defend myself...i am smart very....i try in all matters to make wise choices but most times we are not in control with matters of the heart. I there ae alot more details to this realtionship posted on another question...this one only outlines the rough waves we have had great times but his fears always seem to jump in the middle preventing him from just letting go and letting is heart be....
2007-02-17 02:59:41 · update #2
you need to find some one who will love you
2007-02-20 16:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you're not as smart as you think you are. HE DOESN'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP. You are so full of youreself that you can't bring yourself to beleive that this man doesn't WANT you. Well he doesn't, he has tried to be kind about it but obviously you're too thick headed to understand, yet you make remarks about his Ex. He doesn't WANT a wife. If you're such greate "wife" material then why aren't you a Wife? As far as being educated...obviously you're not because you obviously have no knowledged that just because YOU feel something for someone doesn't mean they HAVE to have the same feelings for you. You have NOTHING on his ex. Except the fact that you're obviously dumber than she is...
2007-02-17 08:06:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Magical thinking in relationship matters is just plain bad. You need to learn to integrate your emotional self and rational self in these matters. It sounds like you are about to get a schooling on emotional matters, though, and that should increase you emotional maturity.
Let's look at what is going here: for a year he hasn't been in your life. What does that bit of communication (because we communicate in a lot of ways: actions, words, body language) say? It says, "I don't want to be with you, so I am not".
Why are you so confused? Because your ego is allowing you to project YOUR desires onto the object of YOUR interest: him.
Listen up, sister! You're a mess. Your rational mind knows what to do (it wants to quit this craziness), but your emotional self is telling you to believe in unicorns and fairy tales. It's time for you to grow up and integrate your emotional and rational minds into one healthy congnitive whole mind.
2007-02-17 08:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's manipulating you and enjoying it. Get rid of him.
Good Luck
2007-02-17 05:09:44 · answer #4 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't manipulate you if you don't let him!!!
2007-02-17 05:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋