she doesnt wants me to talk to my best friend. I am a 9th grader. Help me!!
2007-02-16 20:58:18 · 17 answers · asked by asma javid 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well ignore her,if u are gonna confront her that hey why u being jealous then she is gonna make a mountain of a mole hill ,jsut ignore her thats it why do u have to waste ur energry on her live it aside kid..if u think the other way which will give u grounded that not everyone or everbody think hight abt u and when time comes u can prove it....dont worry abt her or him just stick to ur best friend ...simple as that
bey take care
cheerz
2007-02-16 21:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by vagabond x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is one of those evils to fight now, while you are young, as it will only get worse.
Some people feel they are justified in being jealous. They think they can possess another person, or monopolize their time and attention. They can't. People have not legally owned people for a long time.
And no, a wife does not own a husband, nor a husband own a wife. So how much less can a friend own another friend?
The problem is, people who feel jealousy don't really think about whether or not it is justified. They simply fail to see that it is an infringement of a person's personal freedom to try to control who they will talk to or spend time with. Yes, if someone makes a date to see you or go somewhere with you, then they should not get distracted by lengthy conversations with others. But a simple hello and then "I don't have time to talk now. When is a good time to call you?" is not too much.
You will find, however, that in dating situations people tend to want to believe that no other member of the opposite sex has a right to your attention when you are with them. And certainly having people drop by your table to say hello when you are out to dinner could get a little tiresome if they take up all your date's time. But expecting all of your time to be slavishly devoted to a particular friend is unrealistic and unfair.
2007-02-16 21:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make it clear to the jealous friend that you have no intention of 'stealing' her friend away from her, and are simply having conversation, after all she is your best friend! Try to talk to the jealous friend as well, so she can see you are a genuinely nice and friendly person. If you all became friends it would be a lot easier!
Try to include her in conversations sometimes, and she might feel less left out. If she continues to get jealous, speak to her again about it, but at the end of the day, this girl is your best friend and it's ridiculous that you should feel you are not able to talk to her.
2007-02-17 00:07:06 · answer #3 · answered by tatiana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
9th Grader.... I have no idea what that means, but I would suggest that the jealous party isn't a friend at all. You are much better off without her.
2007-02-16 21:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by Chris B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im now 23 and i have a some life experience when it comes to mates. You have nothing to worry about its the other girl who has the probem and she really needs to learn to share!! I wouldnt stop talking to your friend because of this girl, she'll come round some day. If your best friend can see this than she should maybe have a word with this girl and tell her that you are her friend to and that she wont come between you both. Get on with it girl enjoy your friendship and dont dwell on the other. Think of something funny about this girl and every time you see her you can just smile, which she'll either find really irritating and piss off or she'll come round to your way of thinking and stop ******* moaning lol!! hope this helps hun x
2007-02-16 21:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by kelly g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girls can be so catty sometimes! I have a friend who al her friends are like this - none of them will go out of the other is out etc - it's so stupid!
You obviously all have something in common as you both get on well with this 'best friend'. Why not suggest that you all become friends. Suggest all going out somewhere together and all invlov each other. You will probably find that once you let your guards down, you will all actually get on very well.
2007-02-16 21:39:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and include your best friend's friend in the conversation. Jealousy is a terrible emotion try and be nice to her. Three in this case is not a magic number. She needs to be reassured that she is part of the circle and that she can be friends with both of you. If she still continues to be churlish then your friend will see that you are trying and that she isn't. I would prefer a friend that was willing to accept new people into our lives wouldn't you?
2007-02-16 21:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by cathyjast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wanna know the secrets of war. . .
1. play the game
2. neva be played
meanin you have to be her best friend ..no matter what
let her get the picture you want to be her best friend. . .
she'll think different about you ..who knows later
she take you as her best friend ...trust me
be her best friend for now n email me what happened
when you did . ..lol you'll see what i mean when its done correctly
if she's jelous ignore that side n ride to be her best friend !!!
2007-02-16 22:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by THUG LIFE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the jealous one is not a friend and has some issues that she needs to work out - or grow up!
2007-02-16 21:44:28 · answer #9 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing in my advice is to talk to that girl who gets jealous because she wont just stop. you cant make someone not be jealous. it happpens. maybe she likes is jealous of your bf because shes getting your attention, or she is jealous of you or something, could be a number of things. just talk to her, but dont be rude or anything because i can imagine her getting defensive and taking it personally. or get your bf to talk to her for you
2007-02-16 21:04:30 · answer #10 · answered by coatedwithroses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋