im in love with a guy frm 7 years. we r planning to marry soon. his family is very selfish and he knowsthis. he is also considerate for his family. he knows that we should live separately after marriage so that we can live in peace. he agrees to it also. but sometimes while discussing the thing s he says we will see this after marriage where to live. If i say i cannot live with ur family and i dont want to marry u then he says we will live separtae . im confused what to do . plz help me .
2007-02-16 20:12:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let him go, if he comes back and changes his ways then it was meant to be.
2007-02-16 20:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well well, its very normal dear, if a guy says he cant leave his parents that means he is a decent guy, doesnt matter how your parents are if they care for you you are alwways going to stay with them, doesnt matter what they do and how they do!! I know there are problems after marriagew ith in laws but you gotta give a chance to the family, n then if you dont find urself comfy enough after marriage then better ask for a separate place... u might get it!!
Demanding it b4 marriage doesnt make any sense dear... try n think from ur bf's perspective!! But yeah living alone is going to be more fun at times no doubt on that hehe
all the best
Deeps
2007-02-18 00:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by Deeps 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not able to decide whether to live separately or not. he may admit that his family is selfish, but you too have to admit a fact that it's his family. They depend on him. He cannot just ignore them. He doesn't want to ignore you either.
To all those people who suggested that he's a mama's boy and suggested ou to leave him, considering ones own family is not wrong is it. But not considering those people would be inhumane.
You gotta support him. both of you love each other, don't you? So what difference does it make if you stay with the family. Or is it that you don't wanna compromise regardign the issue. It matters more than your love to you, doesn't it? You may be making things difficult for him.
Ledt me tell you another secret - guys love it when girls say, "I'll be with you forever, no matter what happens?" And girls too love it when the guy says the same.
:-)
2007-02-17 02:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You people giving a man problem's even before marriage. May be he is not prepared to live separate from the family and causing for him to changing the statements. There plus point and minus point living together with family and it will be same to live separate form family.
2007-02-17 03:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by yogasun2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, u know wat marriage is such a thing, sab naani daadi yaad dila deti hein. Its good in a part but u have to be more practical after marriage, so just beware. After marriage u will spend more time with ur inlaws rather tah with ur hubby. So, be straight and tell him or when u will meet his parents, let it be clear that u guys r going to live alone. Then see his expressions.
All the Best
2007-02-16 20:44:25 · answer #5 · answered by sanna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
relies upon on how friendly the boys get. and how friendly with your bf your female pals get. that is like the olympics. would you believe the girls's volleyball group from Brazi with your husband having margaritas in case you're having gymnasts from China over for "lunch". pals is a verb. human beings do exactly no longer take a seat around.
2016-11-23 14:36:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Sanna says "be more practical". If you are so rigid about what you want after marriage, you are sowing the seeds of displeasure before the marriage itself. Learn to be adjusting and try to be the strength of your partner and not as another headache in his life. Our rigidity not only makes us suffer, it affects the people who are closest to us.
2007-02-17 00:04:57 · answer #7 · answered by Smart Indian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is two becoming one. No separation even for family. To seperate is to live seperate. That's not marriage. Why bother
2007-02-16 20:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by #1 saints fan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey please what ever you expect from your bf so please clearly to him before marriage if he is really love's you he definately do for you but firstly explain why you want to live sepretly because can you think live with out your own son think of it. Take much more time to your relation
2007-02-16 21:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by ruchi s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to decide now about his plans after marriage to vaoid problems latter on.
2007-02-16 20:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by sagarukin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He wants to get married and live seperate.Please PLease don't make a huge mistake and marry this guy.Sounds like he's a mamas boy.Why do you want to marry someone who cant provide for you anyway?Don't say cause I love him.Love doesn't pay the bills!!
2007-02-16 20:22:25 · answer #11 · answered by lady2 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋