i had an abortion 6 years ago . from then we had used different methods of family planning and didnt get pregnant. it has been 10 months since we r ttc. no luck yet. i m 29 my husband is 37. how long can we wait. when we went to diff doctors everyone gave different suggestions pls help me. anyone pls tell me how long can we wait or get treated soon.
2007-02-16 20:03:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Usually a doctor won't suggest treatment until at least a year of trying. Don't forget, as we age our fertility changes. Your husband is nearing 40 now...He's not going to be "shooting" those peppy little guys so much any longer. All I can suggest is to talk with your doctor.
2007-02-16 20:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be to worried and need some relaxed sex,where you are not focused on a baby,the time,the day,the temp. the eggs,the sperm. I have been a good friend to a few who were trying so hard and could not.
If you drink, find a good friend to take you out get you sloshed but not passing out.Drive you home (safely).
You get home and Surprise him (he should not drink that night and unexpected of you)where he hasn't been in a long time (I am guessing). And maybe the relaxed you will become Pregnant.I have helped 2 friends this way.I barley drink and they needed out of their own minds. Good Luck and please post if you are pregnant.
2007-02-21 01:44:56 · answer #2 · answered by mzplcd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Elaine's story
Gazing lovingly at her one-year-old son Cameron as he sleeps soundly in his cot, Elaine Howe says she’s happier than she’s ever been.
Like any mum, she reckons her little boy is the light of her life. But for Elaine, Cameron is extra-special – because for the past nine years she had feared she could never have kids.
Nine years ago, when she was 19, Elaine had an abortion. And she has been racked with guilt ever since, believing the operation had somehow spoilt her chances of ever having a family.
She says: "Even now I remember the day of the operation as if it was yesterday. I believe for me it was the right thing to do at the time, but that has not stopped me wondering what might have been and fretting about whether I would ever conceive again.
"When I found out I was expecting Cameron, I cried with joy. The last time I was pregnant, it was the result of a one-night stand. This time I was in a stable relationship and had always known I wanted children with Cameron’s father.
"But that did not stop me worrying. All sorts of feelings I thought I had long buried were awakened. I remembered how I had gone off tea and coffee and developed a craving for a certain type of sweet.
"More worrying than that I began to fear something would happen to the baby. I thought that as I had not carried a baby to full-term last time, I would not manage it, or did not deserve to, now."
Elaine says she also found medical appointments difficult as at each one she was asked whether this was her first pregnancy.
She says: "Despite never telling my family about my experience I had to keep repeating I had an abortion when I was 19. My mum attended one scan with me and I had to ring up beforehand to ask could they please not mention it."
What the experts say
According to Ann Furedi of the British Pregnancy Advisory Service, Elaine’s experience is not uncommon. But she says women who have terminated one pregnancy should be reassured that they have every chance of conceiving again.
There were 173,701 terminations performed on women resident in England and Wales last year. And according to statistics, almost 40 per cent of women in this country will choose to end a pregnancy at some time. Out of those most will go on to have a fulfilling family life.
Ann says: "Women may fear something may have gone wrong during the procedure or can feel guilty, both leading to worries that they will not be able to have children. But they should not worry.
"We offer post abortion counselling and a woman faced with these particular circumstances may want to talk to her GP about it."
Ann said that although the feelings women experience during pregnancy after abortion had been compared, by some experts, to those experienced by women who had suffered a miscarriage, it was impossible to generalise.
She said: "Someone who has had a miscarriage may feel anxious because she does not know why her pregnancy ended, a woman who chose to end it knows she did it deliberately.
"However, when she has a wanted pregnancy, she has to face up to all sorts of feelings and emotions that she did not face before. This may lead to guilt and insecurity.
"The most important message to get across is one of reassurance, as Elaine’s now happy experience has shown."
2007-02-17 04:08:08 · answer #3 · answered by Ladybird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am in the same boat expect i had a misscarrage last year . and since then ive been trying to get peg. The doctors wante to put me on clomid i haven't tryed it yet.
2007-02-17 06:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by Kat J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started Clomid after six months of trying.
2007-02-17 04:08:05 · answer #5 · answered by jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best of luck
check each one of your fertility....
go with the sugg which you are most comfortable with
2007-02-17 04:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by Dave K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check his sperm count before you go further
2007-02-17 04:26:33 · answer #7 · answered by MIKE V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋