Is It O.K. To Be Goth???

Question

i have started to dress in all black and well my parents and my friends are all like wow i never knew that you were goth so i was kinda saying that im not even though i am seriously thinking about changing my life and heading toward the whole goth direction and well now my friends are all trying to be like me and its kind of starting to get on my nerves and well i just dont know what to say and if its ok to dress like this even if i dont want my friends to because i want to be different i dont want to be like them but if they start to dress like me then i feel like i am JUST like them and i dont know how to tell them that i dont want them to dress like me and what it means to be goth and they would have to give up their god to be like me and i dont think that they would still like me if i told them thst i dont believe in god so is it ok to be goth or what???

Answer 1

First of all, before you call yourself "GOTH", have you done your homework when it comes to the goth culture and what they believe in? Do you want people to call you a poser? I know you are just a kid, but by the way you dress and the music you listen to, you WILL attract the same kind of people that are into that specific style, and they will know and see for themselves, that you like the clothes or you like the music and the lifestyle. There is a lot to learn about every scene. And it takes years literally to really understand EVERYTHING. And they all have their own beliefs. As for your friends, the way you beat them to this, is by knowledge. First like I mention, you learn and educate yourself about the style, the music, and how the movement came about, and where it came from, and their beliefs. So, when your friends "think" they look cool and all, you can ask them what bands they listen to, what they know about the goth movement and so on. And if they know nothing, you don't have to say anything, they will already feel stupid, and probley tone it down. But whatever you do, don't be arrogant about what you learned, there is always someone who knows more. And remember, learn about the music as well, not just the clothes. I am not into goth at all, but when it comes to scenes, its basically all the same information your looking for to learn about it. Read and educated yourself, knowledge is power, power is status. Good luck kid..have fun!

Answer 2

ok first i'm a goth, and 2d you're 12 years old and you putting on black outfits and massive boots and wearing black nail polish wont help you somewhat considering the fact which you wont be goth, goth is a wisdom and feeling, you're entering into it just to gown up and be "cool"... i'm to old to apply the observe poser yet believe me youngsters wont handle you to any extent further valuable after all that and in the top youll wish you had no longer tried in the 1st place, communities like evanecance and greenday are nor goth or punk, they seem to be a level teach that are made up for imprestionable babies like your self ought to experience like a you're a rebellion aganst significant flow sociaty and track, only communities like this are utilising you because of the fact the puppets for a clean mainstream that has very lots robbed from its insperations (goth and punk) nicely bypass play your stupid gown up video games yet be your self and please study greater approximately goth subculture in the past you think of of chatting with a actual goth jointly as your dressed as one. Goodluck

Answer 3

Being Goth is for lack of a better word, lame. I mean, come on! Do you really want to eliminate the brightness in your life through a stupid lifestyle. Besides, Goth kids are the ones that end up shooting up their schoolmates and stuff.

Answer 4

Alright look: Why should you care what people think about your choice of clothes? If you really were a "goth" you wouldnt give a crap okay? btw-dressing in black doesnt make you "goth"...If you even knew what "goth" meant, you wouldnt be asking this question. and what do you mean by "give up thier god"? let them believe what they want...not believing in god doesnt make you "goth" either...

Answer 5

I think it's ok to be yourself. Too many people in this world try to be something they are not. As long as you are true to what you want, and who you are, then all you should do is pity the people who don't know themselves enough to be comfortable with who they are. Too many people try to be what they think others want them to be, and as long as you are not one of those people, I'd be proud of myself if I was you.

Your friends copying you only means they look up to you a great deal. It is very hard to feel flattered when this happens, but you should be happy that you have friends who think that much of you. They may turn out to be very good, lifelong friends. Growing up is a tough process, and you may never feel like you know who you are, but go with the flow, your feelings, ideas, and opinions will change over the years. Go with what you want, as long as you are happy, you should do it, so long as what you choose does not involve physically hurting other people.

Answer 6

you dont have to be goth to wear black. go out of town and buy clothes so they cant buy the same ones. or order clothes online. or thrift shops. and if they dont accept you for being an atheist, then they arent good friends to have, are they? if they are real friends they'll accept you for who you are (and wont copy everything you war, though it could be a compliment).

Answer 7

It is OK to dress in black if that is you. But if u r goin to be 'goth' you wont call ur self that. No one likes labels.

Answer 8

Your a sick BI**h. your parents brought u up badly. if u want to be goth go ahead prepare your journey to hell and never get out

Answer 9

I dont believe that goth should even be legal...I think its stupid...

Answer 10

Do your thing honey.Everyone has a thing at one time or another in their life!!!