She is "pudgy" but the doc says her growth is more than baby fat!! However, her older sister (age 11) hates bras and refuses to wear any sort of bra, cami, etc. None of her friends wears a bra either.
2007-02-16 19:46:33 · 21 answers · asked by c 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Hi - if she were my daughter i think i would approach it with a very light hearted attitude - she is growing and it is best for her to be supported and comfortable. its not a big deal - just change ;-)
i would take her to a really nice department store with a good range of underwear for younger girls and get her measured. maybe you get measured first to show her it is not at all intrusive - just a good tool to be sure that she is comfortable.
if she is embaressed - move on quickly to something else you are going to be doing. and reassure her its ok to feel like that - we all feel uncomfortable with new things.
and at the end of the day it is an essential item of clothing to almost all women!
good luck i am sure she'll be fine
xx
2007-02-16 21:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by emma m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want her to wear? What does she want to do? Have you talked to her about this? She is so young. Maybe 2 layers will do. I doubt that she needs the support at this age. If it shows through the 2 layers, you may want to go shopping and see what is available that you both will find comfortable and know she is covered.
And why is your 11 year old telling you what she is and isn't going to do? I would be more concerned with her and the friends she has. If she needs a bra or Cami and you think she needs one, then she should be wearing one. I guess she could always take it off when you aren't around but the attitude is all wrong. A compromise should have been reached before she stomped her little foot down. Sounds like it is time for some changes and losing privileges. Good luck.
2007-02-16 19:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to do the same for my 9 year old step daughter. She's a little on the pudgy side also. But, it was starting to look bad when she wore shirts that were a little form fitting. You know the t-shirts that are in style now that the girls wear. So, I just went and bought her these little pull over bras. They are really like a sports type bra. Light material. She doesn't mind wearing them. And she only wears them if the shirt she is wearing is form fitting. Kids are hitting puberty younger and younger. My older stepdaughter, who is 14 now, started her period at 10. So , your doc could be onto something. When I was growing up the average age for puberty to hit was around12. It's scary.
2007-02-16 22:26:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that though she may not wanna wear a bra rit now, it'll be good for her later on. She may feel weird that she's the only one out of her friends that's gonna wear a bra, but then she'll realize that she made the right decision as she grows older. Wearing a bra should not make u feel like a freak, its supposed to tell u that ur growing up and that ur close to being a teenager. Which is a good thing. Hope this helped.
2016-05-23 21:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to your daughter ultimately.
I wore one from age of 9 years, I wasn't pudgy but I was developing at an early age. The bra, as you probably know, serves to straighten your back aswell as keep the breasts in form.
If she is "pudgy" and she has breasts, then she should wear a bra. It will serve her right long term, and allay any upper back problems later in life.
I was the only girl at Primary School that was wearing a bra, and because I had high self esteem, I was fine with that. I did wear a singlet over it and then my school dress or t shirt.
2007-02-16 19:54:40 · answer #5 · answered by caz_v8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it a special afternoon out. Find a specialist bra shop where the ladies will treat her right. Allow her to be happy with herself.
Don't compare her to her friends. Don't treat this as if its a problem. Getting a bra is emotional for her and you, and its your job to support your daughter.
Your daughter was going to have to wear a bra someday anyhow.
2007-02-16 23:11:50 · answer #6 · answered by Joel G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 9 when I started wearing one, 11 when I started wearing underwire bras. If your daughter really doesn't want to wear one then you may have to freak her out a bit by trying to tell her that her boobs will look ugly when she is older- it's harsh but it's true. She may just develop young and her breasts may continue growing so it would be best to prevent future sagging. When she is a bit older she can try exercising to try and reduce them but this did not work for me.
** My friends didn't wear bras either but I thought I was so grown up and cool for wearing one
Maybe get her started by wearing singlets with shelf bras and build her up from there.
2007-02-19 23:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by renee.emily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that she should get some good sports bras and start exercising more. I use to be a DD cup and now that i've been exercising, inless than a month i'm down to a C-Dish cup. Boobs are mostly fat so you and your daughters could start walking and gradually move to running
2007-02-16 19:50:57 · answer #8 · answered by ★☆✿❀ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might enjoy feeling grown up, my sister did. I hated wearing bra's. Make it a big deal and go shopping and to lunch and make it a woman's only day. Maybe if you buy one too she won't feel so awkward.
2007-02-16 19:50:47 · answer #9 · answered by jess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They have sport bra's. Or a firm fitting undershirt. Talk w/her best friend's mother and go shopping. Good Luck
2007-02-16 21:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by msprissysmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋