did i do the right thing?

Question

my husband went behind my back and saw his oldest daughter friday"night"and i hate her mother and he knows this he cheated wit her and the only reason Y i found where he was going is because i asked&said y didnt u invite me then he said if u want 2 go get dressed i told him no because he never invited me 2 go now im pissed at him&i want out of this marriage.my point is i know in my heart of hearts he slept wit that b****(his ex the mother) he said no he just went 2 c his child she has her own place but i know her mammy came their he said no she didnt but i dont believe him and i used his own words back on him(IF U HAVE NOTHING 2 HIDE U HIDE NOTHING)and he said he hid nothing but he would have never told me had i not asked(WHERE R U GOING)so i told him tell that b**** thank u because that piece of a**has cost him his marriage but he sticking 2 he did nothing wrong am i right when i said when u have nothing 2 hide u hide nothing but he hid everything so i know he`s lying

her mammy is 1 of the b****** he screwed around wit 2-3weeks after we got married then he moved in with her for about 2-3months

Answer 1

I'm not sure you have enough evidence to prove he was cheating on you when he visited his daughter. Maybe he didn't tell you because he knew how much it would upset you? Maybe try to talk it over calmly with him. Explain that he hurt your feelings in keeping his visit to his daughter a secret. Tell him you don't mind him visiting her, but it's the secrecy that's upset you. Then try to work out a compromise such as you'll agree to him seeing his daughter a set amount of time a week/month, as long as he's honest about it with you.
Good Luck!

Answer 2

If this third degree is the way you always talk to him, then yes I agree with you, he probably cheated. Hell, he probably ran over there screaming help, I married a nut case! I haven't witnessed this much irrational conspiracy theory garbage in a long time. Maybe, just maybe you're too freaked out to properly word everything, so, to give you the benefit of the doubt, re-write this after you have calmed down. Try not to make it a novel, just the "facts", and lessen your own point of view a few notches. And for God's sake....use spell check! If you want my advice then (why would you) IM me and let me know you re-wrote the question. I promise you I won't be mean or evil, just give you an honest opinion of a possible approach to the problem.