Is it possible to forgive someone but still have hurt feelings? I have forgiven my old friend for her wrong-doings toward me but I still have hurt. I have no "hard feelings" as in I do not hate her or wish anything bad on her but I do still feel hurt. Your thoughts?
2007-02-16 19:21:35 · 8 answers · asked by rock55 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Forgive but dont forget. Forgetting opens history up to repeat itself leaving you open to the same situation. Hurting heals over time and sometimes it takes a long time. Yes you will get better over time. But it is best to explain to who ever did this that you in fact have forgivin them but it still dont take the pain away. Maybe they can try and help you with the healing process.
Bless
2007-02-16 19:32:17 · answer #1 · answered by dont want stalkers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its perfectly normal to feel hurt even after you have forgiven. Forgiveness does not mean you Forget, that's what makes you stronger in life and wise in the future. Eventually your hurt will fade but while the wounds are fresh you'll run into instances that remind you of your friends wrongdoings which can bring back that "hurt" feeling. As corny as it sounds, give it time, and the feelings should subside.
2007-02-17 03:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is...something inflicted against u emotionally takes time to heal...ur lucky if u guys can still bring back the good old times but chances are u can't...it's like a mirror that has been broken: no matter how u fix it, u can still see the mark where it has been broken. u just have to accept the fact that it will never be the same again. but u can still be friends and do the best u can to pick up the pieces remaining. be glad her wrong-doings have done no permanent damage. keep it up, don't hate her. the hurt will just go away on its own.
2007-02-17 03:31:21 · answer #3 · answered by suzielyse 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is just remember she broke your trust, do forgive and help her to renew this trust. In time the hurt will heal but the experience will last forever. Time heals all wounds.
2007-02-17 03:27:37 · answer #4 · answered by Don D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its possible,depending on how serious the problem was.you can forget abt it,but should be more careful next time not to be hurt in the same way again.
2007-02-17 03:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by Erniebassey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that way myself. Only with ought the 'No hard feelings' thing. At least your trying to be the bigger person. Good work.
2007-02-17 21:23:53 · answer #6 · answered by Academy& Clockworthy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats human nature,i still feel hurt from my ex best friend,and our split happen 2yrs ago..you:"ll get over it life goes on..gl
2007-02-17 05:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're a woman,you don't know anything about forgiveness.
2007-02-17 13:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by NONAME 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋