like when the punishements are not what they should be
2007-02-16 19:13:02 · 5 answers · asked by my # is 1-800-you-wish 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Uhm. Being a bit more specific would help, though I'm not saying that just to be rude.
But in general, I'd probably advise you to talk to her about it. Try explaining your situation with more depth, so that she'll be more in the open about it. I suggest going to her when she's cooled down a bit, if she's mad - as the latter situation could easily just lead to more fighting and for you, more length to your punishment.
Also, when talking to her, make sure not to get angry or answer back, as that can just lead to another fuse blowing. Be polite, and maybe she'll lift the whole thing off, depending on what you did.
2007-02-16 19:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person actually did the thing that the punishment is for it is sometimes just their opinion against their mother's as to whether the punishment is what is should be.
If, on the other hand, a mother is being abusive with punishment then the son or daughter should tell someone (like the counselor at school).
If its something like being grounded for three months when the son or daughter thinks they should only be grounded for two weeks maybe having a talk with the mother and asking her to reconsider the punishment could possibly help if the son or daughter seems to really be remorseful about what they did and seems to really "get it" when it comes to why it was a problem.
There's also the "good behavior" principle that sometimes goes on when it comes to people in prison. Maybe if a son or daughter does what they're supposed to do for a little while the punishment will get reduced "for good behavior".
2007-02-17 03:19:49 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a first step accept the punishment since contradiction will make things worse.
Later, when things are better, try to open a conversation. In a cool way try to show your point. Explain to her why you believe that she shouldn't punish you, tell her your motives, your thoughts and it is very possible she will understand.
Have in mind that when we punish somebody, we do not ask him what he thinks his punishment should be.... This is why the majority of punishments are considered as injustice.
We punish according to our own psychology and we give the punishment that would give a lesson to US - if we were in the other"s position.
Talk about it with your mother. Maybe she has something to say. I believe something good will come out of this talking.
2007-02-17 03:26:25 · answer #3 · answered by Alice in Wonderbra 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know.
Stand in your right as a human being.
If you let her get away with it without trying your best to make her see the unfairness, this injustice will creep around inside of you until it comes out as rage or harm to another. Be firm and do all you can to disarm her. It's now your duty unfortunately.
It will also make it easier for you to forgive her later....
2007-02-17 05:16:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-17 03:20:32 · answer #5 · answered by Spook Leane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋