For the better part of the first 6 months he has been sleeping on me....for naps and through the night. Now if I try putting him in his bed awake of asleep he either wakes up in less than 10 minutes of screams for hours on...
2007-02-16 18:50:27 · 22 answers · asked by Tine 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Take some time to remember that your baby will only be small for such a short time and then lay down with him/her or get a baby carrier to wear your baby while you tend to other chores and things around the house. While some babies' spirits can be quickly broken by crying it out - other babies will just continue to scream for the the physical touch and attention that they need.
When you need time for yourself there are many ways to help your baby sleep without resorting to leaving them screaming. Try reading Dr. Sear's website - loads of sleep information there www.askdrsears.com or pick up the wildly popular book The No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley.
2007-02-16 19:19:50 · answer #1 · answered by amom 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What lisa P says is good advice but I'd also suggest getting a comforter for him but for the first few days sleep with it and when ur at home put it up ur top or when u put him to bed take the top off u've been wearing during the day and give it to him to sleep with it will smell of u. Also get a baby monitor that u can talk to the baby through it might help him to hear u but he won't get upset when he sees u walk away.
2007-02-17 06:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by kate B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Check out 'Three in a Bed' by Deborah Jackson.
This is the description from Amazon.co.uk
Until relatively recently, babies weren't sent off to sleep alone in their cribs where they often cry themselves to sleep--only to wake, needing to be fed or comforted until they can fall asleep again. This book offers an alternative: taking your baby to bed with you. Drawing on up-to-date and startling new evidence, the author shows how babies who sleep with their parents benefit by getting virtually a full night's sleep. Three in a Bed also includes a fully revised chapter based on new research on the SIDS debate and includes practical information on safety in the bed, how to sustain your sex life, and how to deal with the moment when the baby leaves his parents' bed. The approached advocated in this book can change the life of any parent struggling with getting their baby to sleep through the night.
2007-02-16 22:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by CH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as well as the let him scream for a while (15 - 20) mins have u tried putting a jumper or t shirt u have been wearing in the cot, it worked for 2 of mine. this is just a phase, believe me this will pass, mine all sleep through now aged 15mths, 21/2 & 4 yr
2007-02-18 22:13:16 · answer #4 · answered by Kaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear it sounds like he has got into the habit of falling asleep cuddled up with you.
It is much easier, and lovely come to that, when they are on you because you can smell them and feel them.
You need to gradually break the habit. Imagine you fall asleep cuddled up to the warmth and comfort of your mum, and then suddenly you are shoved into this cold hard cot.
Start with him in his room sitting on a chair with him so he gets used to the smells and atmosphere of his room. Then gradually start putting him down as he is just dropping off and stroke him until he is asleep. (Babies love being sung to). Gradually reduce the stimulation he gets from you to help him sleep. Don't speak to him and make no eye contact towards the end so he knows he needs to stay in the cot.
It will be very difficult and will pull at you as remember we are talking about a baby not a 7/8 year old child who has more understand.
May I also suggest a warm bath and some warm milk, (unless you are feeding him), before you settle him down and hopefully this will relax him. Also you could buy something playing gentle music to help him relax.
Good luck..I know your pain.
2007-02-16 19:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I personally don't have this problem (my husband told me nonstop to not let our baby sleep with me overnight or a full nap because he would get used to it and have this exact problem you have) but my brother did because my mom slept with him for all naps and all night since it was "her last baby" and all, and he has difficulty sleeping alone even today (he's 15 now). he could never sleep in his room and had to sleep on the couch when my mom stopped letting him sleep in her bed around 12 years old. so you need to break the habit the sooner the better! we all know that they will eventually get to an age where they can climb out of bed and all that pain, so the couple of years you can get of peaceful sleep with no fights at bedtime will be good for you. alot of people have the right idea here, you may have to let him scream himself to sleep though do go check and soothe him every 30 minutes until he wears himself out, and do that for about a week and then viola! he sleeps alone... but you have to be very careful not to start the habit again and sleep with them at night or naps... he will revert back to the original problem....
2007-02-16 20:31:16 · answer #6 · answered by lynn 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You just need to let him cry until he gets used to it. Go in every 1/2 hour to an hour so he knows you haven't abandoned him but don't pick him up or stay long. If you keep him with you whether it's in his cot or physically on you he will always expect it and you will have major problems when he gets a bit older.
The sooner you get him out of your room the better for him and for you. When he is sleeping you need to be able to sleep as well, not lay awake worrying about every little noise he makes.
2007-02-16 20:12:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
you must persist. I used to HAVE to rock my daughter to sleep in her bouncer. Only when she went to sleep were we able to put her in her cot.
This evolved by putting her to bed striaght away after her last bottle, but we ended up staying in the room with her holding her hand until she went to sleep. This then got ridulous to the point that we would end up holding her hand for almost an hour!!.
I took upon myself to put her to bed and leave her there. She cried and cried and cried. But eventually she got used to the routine. My girl is now 19 months and we have been putting her to bed from 7:30pm for the last 8 months and she doesn't cry anymore. She stays asleep now until 8am the next day. I think that the trick was to not worry about them to much, if you keep interupting them then they will hear you and cry for attention.
Good luck.
:D
2007-02-16 19:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Maybe wrap him up nice and tight in a wrap of some sort and place the cot near your bed so he can see you. And lie down at the same time. However you may have to do the opposite and not let him see you at all.
2007-02-16 19:25:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have to just keep being patient. I know it seems harsh but you have to let him scream it out sometimes. Try being in the room with him after you put him to bed. Try going for a walk to get him to sleep or go for a drive in the car. Good luck
2007-02-16 18:59:47 · answer #10 · answered by dandanthecranman 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋