I HATE myself...?

Question

I am 16 years old and i weigh 210lbs and am 5'3...but i only look like i weigh 150. but even though no one knows my true weight, i feel like they do... I have the lowest selfesteem possible. I wake up every morning and say good morning fatso..i just dont seem to care anymore... but no one notices my slow desent downward, im good at faking a smile or laugh. I want to love myself, and i understand that even if i loose the weight i have a very likely chance i still wont like myself. I feel that there is always some way i could be better, and feel awful if i think good thought about myself because i feel vain. And i understand that i need a sensible amount of vainity, but i seem to have none. I feel awful when i focus the attention on myself, because i know that there are other people who have worse problems than i do and that im just being whiney.Everytime i get depressed my mom says its just hormones, but ive done the research and i kno its not.wat do i do?

Let me explain a wee bit more... My mother owns a fitness club for women. Curves for Women. So i understand the importance of working out, dieting, portion controls, i live by those things everyday. I can spurt and spew eating facts to you all day. I understand that. my problem is with myself.. feeling useless and not caring, and want to do something about it, i want to go to work with my mom and work out, but then i dont. I dont seem to care anymore. Ive seem to have lost my passion for life. Finding fault in everything i do. I understand im not perfect, nor will i be. But how do i stop think this! I understand most of it all. Ive researched alot. I just dont know how to stop it. Expecially when i feel like im doing this alone.

It hard to truely explain my situation to strangers, since i know me so well. All of the advice im receiving is wonderful, but i already doing that. Im eating right, im homeschooled, and I'm graduating 2years ahead of school, and going to college soon. I rarely watch t.v., dont own any sort of video game console. Reading is a passion of mine. Learning is my favorite. I have so many hobbies my life is super busy. Im always on the go. Always helping others. but theres still something there that tells me im not good enough. I have a wonderful family life, a mother and father who have been married coming up on their 39th anniversary, i have a 37 year old sister, who has two kids, wonderful family, and a brother who recently had his first child a beautiful baby girl, then i have a brother who is so in love with his wife it can be sickening. My life seems perfect. I have the most amazing friends, who support me in everyway. but there is still something wrong.

I have no reason to be complaining, and feel i have no right to be complaining. and heck..im not complaining about my life, im complaining about me... i dont know whats wrong, but there feels like something is, something wrong with me.

Answer 1

There is nothing wrong with your weight, you need to be comfortable with it. My sister has the same problem, but to weigh 210 and only look 150 means that you have packed on muscle, and muscle weighs more than fat.
What to do?? Cut back on sweets, pastas and breads. Drink milk daily and eat regularly, like 5 or 6 times a day, but use portion control. Look in your store for products that say " Less Sugar " like Quaker granola bars. Great snack, less sugar, but will still help when you need sugar.
Sounds like you are hitting some depression, and your mother may not understand that. School counselors can help you cope with the depression. Keep your chin up and don't be so harsh on yourself. Everyone in this world has problems, and it is ok to focus some attention on yourself.
Anyways, since when is life about what a scale says. It is about the person you are inside, not outside.

Answer 2

You don't need a shrink. You need self love. You need action.
Psychologists and Psychiatrists have the highest suicide rate of any profession, even over police. What's that tell you?

It sounds like you have enough motivation to change. Use your self-hate to turn yourself into someone you like. It takes time. You didn't gain weight over night and you won't lose it overnight.
Give it a year. You'll be alone. No one is going to help but that's OK. If I can do it, anyone can.

Walk
walk
walk

Walking really works and it's not strenuous. I lost a lot of fat by walking. After a couple of weeks of brisk walking, you'll reach a place that is similar to "jogger's high". The pain and strain will disappear. You'll actually look forward walking. You'll feel the endorphins kick in when you walk.

Tell your mom to stop buying Twinkies. She's not helping. Ask her to buy and prepare healthy food. She will love it.
Stop drinking soda pop. Drink water.
Stop playing Nintendo all the time. Go out and walk.
If people don't like it, or if they laugh at you, F*ck 'em!
The strength you need will come. You just haven't tried it yet.

It will be difficult in the beginning but in a few weeks your tastes and habits will change. You'll begin to love your new lifestyle.

Ask yourself, "Do I want to look and feel this way one year from now?"

Turn your self disappointment into energy and drive. In a year you'll look great, feel great, and the ladies will be calling you on the phone. I promise.

Walk walk walk walk...

It worked for me!

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Answer 3

Most teens go through tough periods of adjustment. That part is normal. My best advice is this: Focus on giving, doing for others, giving your time and heart to those in need, do tutoring if you are academically at average or above, believe in yourself, and like yourself. As you find joy in helping others, take a little time for yourself for exercise (tennis, walking, jogging, hiking, cycling, skating, skiing). Get some good walking shoes and walk all over town. Go window shopping everyday. Spend less time watching TV, less time on the internet. Read. Read good books. Don't drink sodas, too much juice, drink lots of water, don't eat fries, pizzas, bread (especially white bread), Chew on celery, eat salads, but don't drown them in thick salad dressing. Pray. Pray for that others are blessed from above. You will find yourself blessed. Talk to your guardian angel. That's all there is to it! Good Luck!!

Answer 4

You need to see a psychologist. They can help you go inside yourself so you can understand yourself and also help you to get out of this morbid mood you are in.
None of us are perfect, just take a real good look around you. There are always people worse off than we are. You have your whole life ahead of you, so do something that will help you enjoy it to the full.

Answer 5

If you feel unhealthy and uncomfortable in your own body then just try to watch what you eat and excersize regulary. Everyone should exersize even if they are at the perfect weight. Don't beat yourself up over it. I know it's hard. I do the same but don't call yourself names when you get up ..think of good things that will make you smile.