My 5 month old son doesn't really seem to have an attachment to me, Mommy. He's really sociable. On one hand, I'm glad he goes to anyone, but at the same time, I don't feel special and not needed. But I feel I should have a special bond with my son that no one else has. When I went back to work and my son started going to the babysitter, I was afraid he was going to love her more. But I don't see a difference. Isn't my baby old enough to recognize "mommy"?
2007-02-16 18:24:29 · 7 answers · asked by Wheezy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
yes they are for a little while
2007-02-16 18:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by Stuart B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows mommy any baby does My daughter is now 15 months buts when she was his age she was just like him would go to anybody no problem and she is still like that to this day but as they get older they get into a stranger faze and all they want is mommy. And you will love it and if daddy is around they will start to favor daddy just as much cause daddy is fun. but they will still favor mommy a little more just because mommy is the one who they know better. See your son was in your bellie they heard you before they heard anybody else so when they come out they know mommy right off you had the bond before anyone else could you hold the bond no one else can have and if you breast feed that helps just don't do it after a year. It isn't healthy mentally for them or you. Some babys prefer the bottle mine did and she is still her momma's girl. wether or not u see the bond now it is there don't think it isn't it is. Also get down on the floor and play with your son hell love that to work with him rolling over and crawling and walking. He'll love the play time
2007-02-17 02:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by melbell962000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you "feel" you need to know that you ARE his Mommy, and you can't expect anything in return from your baby (some special action, face, sound) you just need to be a true Mommy and give everything to him. That is how the child / mother bond is created and it is something that is built day by day. At 5 months old you may not realize that your baby is creating this bond, but then leaving him with a babysitter at SUCH a tiny, vulberable, young age is just not gong to help at all. That is really just too bad and something you shoudl seriously consider changing -- your baby needs to be your #1 priority and when someone has to work all day that becomes your priority for the 8+ hours a day you are there -- that is just the truth of the matter.
5 month old babies can't give much in return, they are totally dependent on their mommys (or whoever is taking care of them), but the chaneg so quickly and grow so much -- you are going to miss a lot of this if you are not there every day, I'm just telling you the truth, I have a 2 yr old and it has flown by.
A friend of mine just quit her job a few weeks ago because her 18 month old would cry when the babysitter would leave -- and my friend was horrified that it seemed the baby just hadn't bonded with her, and preferred the babysitter. But she only saw her baby for a few rushed minutes in the morning, and then a few hours in the evening when both she and the baby were tired -- and then I guess they tried to make up for the lost 5 days during the weekends.... but you can't make up for lost time at this crucial time in a baby's development.
So if you think you're not feeling a true bond now, the truth that I guess no one else wants to mention to you is that you are eroding at this bond by spending so much time away from your baby and placing him in the care of another person...
So my friend los her health insurance, they are literally eating potatoes and PB/jelly sandwiches every day, and her husband needs to leave his dreams of being a professional dancer behind and get a job -- ANY job -- that will provide the health insurance and income for the family. My friend took the initiative to get that bond back with her baby, she quit her job and told her husband he had to make it work for the family, and he is now looking for a job with UPS in addition to the dance instruction job he had.... you gotta make it work, you gotta find a way to be there to bond with your little one, and then I think you get to truly enjoy the bond you are seeking because it will be real, it will be earned and it will undeniably be in your baby's everytime he wakes from a nap, looks up from a game, at every diaper change, he only sees mommy's face.
2007-02-16 18:45:51 · answer #3 · answered by Finnale 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
particular, he desires you each and each 2d. that's what 8 month olds do. set up his play backyard or workout saucer the place he can see you doing dishes - he remains an infant and desires the protection of being able to work out now. If he can not see you, he does not know in case you're in the subsequent room or left the domicile devoid of him and that is frightening for many infants his age. in case you incredibly could bypass away the room devoid of him (prefer to bypass to the bathing room), communicate or sing to him in case you're out of the room. he's not a mommy's boy. he's a superbly widely used and wholesome infant.
2016-11-23 14:32:26 · answer #4 · answered by vaillancourt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes just exploring the world, its okay. When he gets older, like the rest of us (or most guys anyways) he will become a momma's boy. If it was a girl she would most likely become daddy's little princess or angel. Give it some time.
My son know who spoils him and nourishes him and hugs and kisses him (Its not me!). Don't get me wrong I take care of him, play with him and teach him to be a guy 25 hours a day I just don't spoil him. I'm also the one that punishes and puts boundary's on him and everything. Not the best person to be to a child, in the end he knows I love him and he respects me for it (yes he always runs to his mommy when he gets in trouble).
This is just how it works (for the most part).
Just give him time.
2007-02-16 18:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by infiniteson 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do you practice attachment parenting when you are with him? Do you breastfeed? Do you cosleep? Do you wear him, close to your heart, in a sling or other carrier? Did you send him away to get his genitals cut when he was brand new? Any of these and many other factors can affect attachment.
Read up a bit at http://askdrsears.com for ways to reconnects with your baby.
2007-02-16 18:45:57 · answer #6 · answered by Terrible Threes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 5 months is too young to worry about this. Just be the best mom you can be and everything will work out.
2007-02-16 18:33:10 · answer #7 · answered by ripcurt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋