seriously why does mom always get custody? as in always i mean 95% of the time?
2007-02-16 17:53:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is a archaic thought that mothers can be better parents than fathers. That is changing however slowly it may seem, I know fathers that are much better parents then mothers. This mindset isn't going to change unfortunately soon enough. It is that way, the mother can be a very bad person, and do things that the father would never do and she would still get the kids, it is messed up and needs to be changed.
2007-02-16 18:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because no matter what the father thinks, the court always looks at what is in the best interest of the child. It doesn't matter what is "fair" to the father or mother. I think it is less than 95% now. Do angry fathers necessary want what is best for the child or are more concerned about child support? When I got divorced I had a little 1 year old daughter and her father said she would be best off with me. After he found out that he still was ordred to pay child support even though he was not working, he harassed me, said I was crazy and asked for full custody. Maybe the question should be-if there was not any child support ordered, how many men would be angry with the custody situation and care more about the best interest of the child? My ex and I are very civil with each other now. That is the best thing you can do for your child.
2007-02-17 02:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's the woman who wants the responsibility and can provide the stable home for the child. And it's not 95% of the time. Fathers get custody more often than you think. The fact is most men would rather be free and don't want to be tied down with the demands of raising children as a single parent. I admire the ones that do show that kind of strength and care for their kids. A woman is more apt to want to keep the children and usually have more of an emotional attachment.
2007-02-17 02:02:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, because most of the time the child is more attached to the mother, (especially younger children) just because they seem to have some sort of bond. And I don't really think that should be the case. It shouldn't be about who the child is more attached to, it should be about which parent is more stable, and able to give the child a good living environment. Honestly though, I think it is each parents right to be a part of their child's life, unless they are a danger to the child. And the child is really the only one that should be considered (though I'm not going to lie and say I wouldn't be devastated if I ever had my "child" taken from me {don't have one yet}) Well, have an awesome day! :)
2007-02-17 02:00:43 · answer #4 · answered by Emilie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mother would have to be a real crackhead to have her child taken away. There are some great fathers out there who have full custody b/c the mothers aren't involved, so the fathers get the child. It works both ways and judges can see who really wants the child and who's stable. Ultimately we hold responsibility for our own kids. Our rewards are them growing, learning, and succeeding. Everyday is a blessing and those not involved are sadly losing out.
2007-02-17 02:32:42 · answer #5 · answered by SuperMommy143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just recently experienced my first custody battle during my divorce. I have 3 children and my ex-husband and i both fought for full custody. Yes I won the custody battle but it was only because I was found to be the more fit parent. I had a job, a stable home and I have taken good care of my children since they were born. My ex on the other hand lived with his parents and sister and her 4 children, he had not worked in over a year before our divorce and got a job 2 weeks before court. He was not fit to take full custody. But I can assure you the decision is made based on who is more fit or more capable and what is in the best interest of the children. it really has nothing to do with it being the mom or dad.
2007-02-17 02:06:12 · answer #6 · answered by bris_babygirl27 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The judges and lawyers think the children are better off with the mother but I don't know why that is because I see Dads that are 100% better parents than the Mother. A woman has to really be found unfit to lose her children. It is a shame that the courts think children should only be with their mothers.
2007-02-17 01:59:34 · answer #7 · answered by Dyan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because of the societal bias towards women and the myth of the 'necessary mother/child bond' as well as the unfortunate idea that women are meant for children and men for work.
2007-02-17 02:07:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people that have have a say so, (judges, professional counselors, ect.) most likely had good moms raising them, so they have no concept of bad moms, and your kidding yourself if you think that there are more bad dads than bad moms. Good dads are overlooked in order to give BAD MOMS the best chance to emotionally screw up their kids.
2007-02-17 02:47:21 · answer #9 · answered by ckgene 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Also why can they have a abortion and the man has no say. But if he doesn't want the kid he still must pay child support.
2007-02-17 01:59:09 · answer #10 · answered by Krazee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋