Why do I long for something seemingly impossible?

Question

I am someone who longs so desperately for someone to appreciate me, miss me, and especially love me. Relationship around me has just been so depressing lately. Everytime I see someone greets teh others with lovely words, I'd all depressed. I don't seem to get the love of people whom I love so dearly. I need company, and feel secure in life.

I may sound pathetic or whatever you call. But, I just want to find somewhere to confie about this... Thank you for listening..

Answer 1

I'm on here right now because I'm horribly depressed and crying about the same thing. You are not alone. I was a little stunned to read your post actually. What you are saying is almost the same thing that I agonize over constantly. Perhaps it's not so uncommon.

For me, I find myself in friendships in which I am just infatuated with the other person. I adore them and feel so terribly bonded with them. And yet, they always have a best friend that isn't me, they always lose interest eventually, they're never quite accessible enough, and I always feel like I have to hold back.

In relationships I find love, but no one ever truly thinks highly of me. If I were to give someone a list of personal traits which I possess, they would surely be half negative traits. So I always feel lonely, and I always feel like I'm pining after people who I think are just amazing, hoping to get some sort of recognition from them, and some real comfort without appearing weak. I feel weak for wanting love and to be thought highly of so much. I hate myself for crying about not being strong.

I only have 1 person that I can talk to other than my relationship and my sister, and she has a another friend who she is closer with. I'm pretty damn lonely.

This may not be the same as you...but perhaps similar. I don't know. Maybe just reading that someone else feels something similar may help. It made me feel a little better, but sad for you too.

Answer 2

I know just how you feel. I have often felt like that, as if there was something about me that was unlovable. I be came so concerned with what I didn’t have that I was stunned to hear from a friend recently how deeply she felt about the support I have given her in the last few months. And it suddenly hit me, I need to focus on getting the maximum I can from what I have and then something odd happened , I met someone and we are so in love its silly.

Once my focus changed my life did too.

Answer 3

It's natural to feel that way. It's not really impossible to get the love you need.
I used to feel that way, but I just stopped expecting that of other people and started loving myself. And when I'm with another person, I try to focus on them, and they love me for it. Because you want love, you should know that others want it too. And you know that when someone loves you, you love them back. So, if you show another person you care, they'll love you for it.
Of course, loving yourself is very important too. Everyone needs their own love. Well, when I say love, I mean acceptance. If you're okay with yourself, you won't be craving love so much, because you already feel good, and you'll be free to just love others.
Ah well, that's enough rambling from me. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

i feel that way sometimes it sounds like you have bad self esteem or depression. Sort your life out and determine if what you are looking for is someone to love you, the idea of it , or if you just need to love yourself. email me if u want to talk more about it, i may be wrong but it would be nice to talk to you

Answer 5

Prey about it. humans cannot answer questions about your inner emotions, for only God truely knows. and what your describing sounds a lot like love to me.

Answer 6

You want what every human being craves. Companionship and love.