Husband not cooperating in the naming process?

Question

We are having a lot of trouble deciding on a name for our unborn son. Well, I shouldn't say "WE'RE" having the trouble... it's my husband who's having it.

Actually, I have come up with NUMEROUS suggestions for boy names over the past several months -- ALL OF WHICH have been shot down on the spot by my husband. Even ones which I feel very strongly about, he says no way!

I know it's his son too, so I wouldn't have a problem with him shooting down my suggestions if he was coming up with suggestions of his own, but he hasn't given me ONE THING YET.

So, here I am doing all of the work trying to pull these names out of nowhere while he just sits back and rejects every single one I come up with. How can I get him to help me out here??? We are running out of time and options! Anyone else have this problem with the baby's father???

Answer 1

When my husband didn't originally like the girls name I had picked I just kept referring to the baby by that name. After a while he said, "I'm kind of starting to like that name." Well, that baby ended up being a boy, but fast forward 3 years and it's our newborn daughter's name.

Answer 2

I'm not sure when you're due, but some people just don't feel strongly about one name or another until they SEE the baby...

I know it can be frustrating. The moment I found out I was pregnant I started looking at baby name books. My husband didn't seem too interested until the last 4-6 weeks of the pregnancy... at least that's how I felt. I will say, though, it seemed like every name I really liked he shot down. We finally agreed on something about 2-3 weeks before my son was born.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I would give it a rest. You don't have to name the baby right now. You've even got time after the child is born. Some folks wait until they meet their child before coming up with or settling on a name.

You have so much to worry about & fret over with a child on the way, and a name is such a minor thing! Just let it go & enjoy this period of being pregnant. When your husband thinks the time is right, he will step up to the plate.

Answer 4

I guess I was lucky compared to you girls.My husband is not a naming person whether it comes to children or pets.
The first time we ever had to name something together was when we got our first kitten. I tried having him write name suggestions down and he came up with simple not so great names like "Mittens" and "Kitty" (remember this was a cat). They weren't really my style of naming. My husband pretty much admitted that he was hopeless at names and I took over from there.
When we got to naming our children then I just picked out names that I liked and ran it by him. He said whether he liked them or not. Fortunately for me, he liked both the names I had my heart set on. And I got to name our daughters what I liked.
I can imagine how frustrating it must be if your husband is shooting down every name you can come up with though. Have you asked him plain and simply why he doesn't like your names? Have you sat him down and told him seriously that you will need to discuss names and that it is a very important matter?
If all else fails, you will just have to announce to him since he is not contributing to finding a name for the baby then you will pick the name with or without him.
Hopefully you will be able to jolt him into helping you out with the naming process. Good luck!

Answer 5

Ok:

1) Tell your husband how you feel.

2) Sit down tonight and each of you should list 20 favorite names. Then go through both lists and find the names that are the same....or that you both agree on. Have a whole formal discussion--not argument!!--over the name situation.

3) Come up with about 3 different first and middle name combos and start narrowing it down.

4) Decide on your fave!!!

5) Breathe and be grateful you listened to me.

good luck!!

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Answer 6

My suggestion is : The next time he shoots down a name look at him and ask him " Do you have something better"? Tell him that it's his son too, and he needs to help name him, or else you will name him whatever you see fit! If he still doesn't respond then name your son what you want..... He had his chance!

GOOD LUCK AND CONGRATS!!!!!!!

Answer 7

I had the same problem with my husband when we got pregnant with our third child. We came up with a girl's name we both liked, but couldn't find a boy's name we both could agree on. Finally, out of frustration, I just quipped, "Fine. How about captain Jack Sparrow?" It was so funny that everyone, even our sons, agreed on the name Jack.

Thankfully, we had a girl.

Answer 8

I was the same way. I shot down basically every name my wife gave. As a matter of fact, his birth certificate was initially Baby Boy. I finally gave in, though, and gave him a name:
Mangy II (he has my real name - but with the II). Tell him you will name the kid Jackie Tito Jermaine Marlon Michael Jackson..... Remember, they will ask you, the Mom, what the name is, not Dad.

Answer 9

Yes i had the same problem and you know what i done about it? I named our son what i wanted because after being in pain for hours and then going through a c-section i felt entitled no i had the right to name our son what i wanted too. Yea at first my husband was a little mad but he got over it.
Every name i would say he would say no that sounds stupid or that don't sound right. He wanted to name our son Ozzy Lee (yea after ozzy osborne) and i looked at my son in the hospital and i knew i couldn't name him that so i named him Julian Hunter Lee ___________(last name)
I love his name for it is different and no one else has it were we live. My husband loves his name but he told me that if we have another boy that he wants to name it Ozzy but i seriously doubt it for i am the one who will have to go through 9 months then the pain of a c-section so it is my right and i do not care what anyone says about my answer.
Is your husnamd wanting you to name him after himself?
Ask him what names does he like but if it were me i wouldn't say a thing and when i gave birth i would name him what i wanted too.

Answer 10

Ask him what he wants to name the baby, hes being very selfish and mean towards you, where's the enthusiasm??? if my partner was going to be a dad he would be thrilled and non stop coming up with ideas. come to a compromise, the ones you feel strongly about maybe suitable for a middle name? good luck!