Did I do the wrong thing?

Question

Me and My fiance broke up a little over two weeks ago..It's been hard. He broke up with me saying it just can't work. He is out of state and I am pregnant with his baby..For the last week he has been calling and I answer when I have the courage because I break down when I talk to him..He called me on V-day but then got mad at me for some BS on myspace (I really hate that site now) So tonight, I broke down and called him..He has to be at work early and He was tired..he sounded fine at first but then got a little irritated so I just let him go..Did I make a mistake by calling him? I really needed to talk to someone and he was my best friend...Well, still is. I don't talk about "us" when i am on the phone with him. I do want him back but I think he is feeling very overwhelmed right now..Did I make a mistake? I'm trying to be strong.

We invested 7 years in this relationship and I don't think its another woman but you never know..He moved out of state to take a job with his dad..Living with his dad and step mom..etc..He just sounds so confused, Like he doesn't know what he wants.

I am going to keep my baby, He is due within the next month. I really don't want to be a single mom but if it doesn't work out, I will do it! :)

Answer 1

If you two were together for 7 years, I would definitely try to find a way to fix this relationship, especially with a baby on the way. This baby needs a Mom and Dad. You two need to talk and you need to find out if he wants to be a Dad to the baby. If so, pursue this relationship.

Answer 2

You did the right thing. There IS a future in this relationship, simply because there is a baby on the way, so yes, call him. Be polite. Be honest.

Side questions: Are you making plans regarding the baby? Are you going to be a single mom, place the baby with an adoptive family, consider abortion? Do you want him to have a say in any of these decisions? Just to think about. I'm sure you already are.

Answer 3

You gotta take in consideration how long you'd been with this guy. Sometimes break ups are a good thing just think he will be thinking what he's missing and not only that but HE WILL MISS YOU. I would recommend you find a Hobie or something and take great care of you and the little one for now till things calm down a little. The first weeks are hard because you both are angry at whatever the issue was ...just give it sometime. It's hard but at the end it's worth it.

Answer 4

You are pregnant with his baby and he treats you with such disrespect? That is so wrong. Why is he so irritated when he talks to you. Is he messing around? That is usually how men act when they are with someone else. Don't call him anymore. When he calls you, you need to ask him what his problem is, and he needs to tell you. You deserve that. And you deserve his respect. If he can't give the respect you deserve, then I wouldn't even deal with him anymore, unless absolutley necessary. (Only for Baby) I'm sorry. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

You need to keep the realtionship as healthy as you can even if you are not going to be with him, due to the child at hand. Maybe you should stya removed until you can keep the emotions out if, trust me it can happen. My ex and I have a wonderful relationship with our daughter and his new wife and my new husband, but this was only able to happen once the wounds healed. Good luck

Answer 6

If you're pregnant with his child you're going to want to have a GOOD relationship with him for at least the next 25 years. In particular, you're going to want him to be comfortable being in your presence.

So DON'T lash out at him now.

Answer 7

I would start worrying about yourself and your baby and not him. I hope you have someone in your life who you can share the joys and fears of pregnancy with.