I don't understand myself!?

Question

i'm going to be having my little boy on wednesday, but what i don't understand is why am i so scared? i've done it before! i had a little girl two years ago. is it because my husband may not be able to be there for the birth of our little boy? has anyone ever felt this way? (husband is in iraq, and won't tell any of the family what he is planning, as far as being able to come home) Serious answers ONLY please, thanks

Answer 1

I can understand why you may be feeling a bit anxious about giving birth with your husband so far away. These emotions are completly normal. You are a brave and strong woman. Even though you've had a child before, every birth is different, and often hard, you need support, and I'm sorry your husband might not be there beside you to hold your hand as you bring your son into the world. You know that he's right there in your heart and thoughts, thinking of you and his little boy. Know that eveything will be OK, I imagine you're real worries are more than simply delivering the baby, you are probably worried about your husband not being there to witness this merical come into the world. Please keep your mind on positive things, and although it's easier to say than do, try to relax and Know that everything will be ok. Picture your happy family when your husband returns to you, and gets to hold his healthy and beautiful son. You are a strong woman, and it will be OK. I will keep you and yours in my prayers. (Please disregard the rude commets some people wrote here, they just don't understand what you are feeling right now,) Congratulations on your little boy! Prayers, Peace and Blessings my dear sister!

Answer 2

It could be that you dont have the support of your partner with you and also you could be a little scared for your partner... and not yourself - being in iraq. Also you are going to bring a little baby home from the hospital and there will be just u baby and little girl - maybe you are wondering how u r going to cope when you are on your own. also you dont have the constant reassurance that your husband would bring in the lead up to the birth. My partner is always away with the army and i have a 2 year old and a 10 month old and i get scared sometimes - dont want to put thoughts in your head but i sometimes get scared that he wont come home....... dont get sad.... i think this could be why your scared.... once you have had one baby the rest are easy - or easier at least!

Answer 3

Well first of all, Congratulations, how exciting for you!!!! I would definitely say it is because your husband might not be there for the birth. I think it would make any sound minded person a little uneasy not to have some one there to count on and hold your hand. I know it is probably not the same, but maybe a family member or close friend could stand in for him. Best of luck and congratulations on your addition to your family and God Bless to your husband.

Answer 4

I think no matter how many children you have, the anxiety of adding another is enough to make you feel a bit scared. It's a huge adjustment, even if you feel you're prepared for it. Plus there's always the fear of something going wrong, the pain involved, having to adjust, etc. Even if these things aren't on the forefront of your mind, they are still reasons to feel scared. Adding to that, knowing that your husband isn't going to be there could definitely be contributing. He is supposed to be your support and be able to share this with you, but unfortunately circumstances won't allow it.

Try and relax, get the nursery ready or double check your baby bags. Distract yourself from the negative thoughts and start getting excited!

Answer 5

Well, I think women are in their most vulnerable state when they are pregnant. Even though you have given birth before, having a child is a HUGE deal. I'm sure your husband not being able to be there could bring up that fear. I pray hubby will be there and your fear subsides. Congratulations on your baby boy!

Answer 6

i think you have alot on your mind as far as your husband not being there and all but if you done it before you more less know what to expect try not to worry so much it just makes it harder.. it sounds like your hubby might just make it and i hope he does its a beautiful thing but i would try to relax and get ready for the new family member congratulations and good luck you will be fine enjoy your lil' boy!!they are fun!!!

Answer 7

wow, that last answer was really rude!!! i am trying to concieve my self (fingers crossed it happens soon) I have had no previous pregnancys to go by, but im sure giving bith is scary. especially since you say your husband is in iraq and may miss the birth. you must be pretty brave to go through this with your husband so far away. good luck to you!! talk to your doctor about it too.

Answer 8

It more then likely is because your husband wont be there. It's a time of need and support, and having your husband there to help you get through it is VERY IMPORTANT in my opinion. I would of hated my husband not being there.

Answer 9

i think you may be a little anxious about your husband not being there. i was scared, but then again it was my first baby. try to relax. you know what to expect. just go with the flow. good luck.

Answer 10

it OK to be scared. if your husband cant be there with you have a relative or a close friend be a part of your miracle. I was there for my girlfriend and it was a great experience for both of us we are more like sisters now. and her son has a special spot in my heart.
sending my prayers