2007-02-16 16:39:54 · 14 answers · asked by sunshinedawn65 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Anyone can fall in love. Anyone can get married. There is a secret to marriages that DO work out.
Commitment.
You can love someone all you want, but if you're not committed to them, it will still fall apart. There needs to be complete commitment from both sides. This is what wedding vows are for.
Think about it. Marriage is vowing to love someone, for better or for worse, richer or poorer, etc.
Is this person someone that you would still love if he gained 50 pounds? Would you still love him if he lost his job and had to work minimum wage? Would you love him if you had trouble getting along with his parents? Are you willing to make compromises? (for instance, what if he celebrates things in a tradition that is different than yours. Are you willing to work this out or insist that everything be done your way?)
A lot of women think their prospective husbands have flaws that they can fix after they get married, then get frustrated because they dont change. Be realistic. Ask yourself:
Would I be willing to spend the rest of my life completely devoted to this person, if there were no changes in him after marriage for the better? And would you be willing to love him in spite of his flaws?
Hope this helps you. :-)
---Jennifer
2007-02-16 18:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't had that experience-married too young--but I often think of your question--if I want to get married again.
I think if you want him there every possible minute--not realistically as both have to work --but I always think when I date a guy and if we went of vacation could I stand him 24 hours a day 7 days a week? I f the answer is yes love it than go for it if the answer is no he is not for you. Maybe go on a vacation and see if you want to be with him all the time.
2007-02-17 00:52:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband proposed, i knew that i wanted to marry him. There can be no doubts. You just know. I do not know how to describe it. But it is a serious commitment. So, just make sure that is what you want to do. And i wish you all the best.
2007-02-17 00:46:27 · answer #3 · answered by michaelssweetiepie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that, but the best marriages seem to be the ones that start out with 2 poeple who can't breathe unless they are in the same room together.
2007-02-17 00:44:17 · answer #4 · answered by ExperienceD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you can be naked in front of them without being self consious about anything-when you can fart in front of them-when you agree on future plans like how you want to raise your children-when you dont fight over everything-when you have the same long term goals period-especially financially.
2007-02-17 02:11:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to get ask a question like this to determine wether someone is the right one or not then the answer is, they arent. Gut instincts are always right, he/she isnt the one, move on and chalk it up to learning about life!!!!
2007-02-17 05:55:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When u feel comfortable with that person and feel that they will respect u and love u back. Also when u can trust them
2007-02-17 00:52:36 · answer #7 · answered by tough_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would have to say that you would probably feel like you would do anything for that person. i was in the same zone you are in right now but when i first looked at my fiancee..i knew that there was noone that had ever made me feel like that by first meeting them.
2007-02-17 00:45:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have doubts, delay it till you feel you have to marry this man.
Good luck
2007-02-17 00:43:05 · answer #9 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you can picture yourself growing old together, raising a family, and having grandkids together, thats a start. but if you are asking, i'm not sure you're ready. you'll know...
2007-02-17 00:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋