Hello, i need some help. i am a very sexy acting and dressing lady i am 29. a lot of people tell me i look like anna nichole and ashley simpson. well i really dont make a big deal of what i look like but everyone else does. they mistreat me because i am busty with light blonde hair and an very out going personality. i have a hard time keeping friends and my husband family dont like me very much his mother rolls her eyes at me. his grandma looks at me up and down and focuses on my looks. i cant keep girlfriends for the life of me. but in the inside i am a caring sincere loving perosn with a big heart. i am loyal to my friends but it doesnt matter. they still treat me bad. do i have to change my image ? i am smart but on the outside i dont look it. my sister wont even call me. she says catty things the only people i get along with are men. women try to be my friend but end up not liking me and my inlawas as well. but men are fine. my friends husbands say mean things to, i feel comfortab
2007-02-16 16:27:27 · 10 answers · asked by sophie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your going to dress like it, walk like it and talk like it, your going to be called it. Tone it all down a bit. You can still look and feel sexy without being an Anna Nicole. People who are friends are not going to treat you bad because of your looks. They are going to do it because you do, "make a big deal" of what you look like.Sincerity
2007-02-16 16:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by shes_apples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you do need to change you dress code. You say that you busty? are you wearing clothes that reveal your cleavage? If so you may want to experiment with clothes that cover you up a little more. As far as you as a person is concerned you don't need to change anything. Unfortunately there still remains the saying 'Blonde Bimbo'. I understand that this must be extremely difficult to shake of this generalised decryption.
You can't be expected to ignore your friends and family because of their catty remarks, so all i can suggest to you is this. Open up! tell people what you think. You need to cause a shock. If your mother in law is rolling her eyes at you, then ask her why, ask your husbands grandmother too. It's not disrespectful, you have a right to ask. As far as your friends are concerned, they are obviously not your friends. They seem jealous, maybe you get all the attention from the guys when you go out together? If this is happening then ignore the guys or even introduce them to your friends?
I know that this is difficult for you, a will involve a slight change in your personality, but experiment and see what happens.
Good Luck.
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2007-02-16 18:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask yourself the question you have just asked all of us.
You need to think if you are happy in yourself and happy with the way you are treated by friends and family, by acting/dressing the way you do. If you are then why should you change for anyone? As long as you are happy and so is your husband, then who cares what anybody else thinks!
On the other hand though, if you are not happy with the way people treat you and thier comments and treatment of you are getting you down, then maybe yes, it is a time for you to think about changing if his wil enhance your future hapiness.
Like you said, inside you are a loving person, so you deserve to be happy whichever of the above you decide. Good Luck and be happy x
2007-02-16 21:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw something like this on the Tyra show. This girl was going on and on about how good looking she was and how she intimidated women...and how she couldn't have any girlfriends because they were jealous of her...and how only men wanted to be her friend.
Well...Trya jumped all over that one. And as a beautiful woman myself...I can tell you this: You are the cause of the reactions you are getting. If you read your question...you are the one who goes on about your body. Then you are confused why people don't like you? You are sending our vibes honey..even if you don't say a word.
So ask yourself...who are you on the inside? What part of your life do you feel excited about? Are you happy? What is beautiful about your soul and who you are and what you want out of life?
People mirror our thoughts. We will attract people in our lives who treat us the way we think about ourselves. So...are you not liking yourself very much? Are you overly focused on your body? You say you have a big heart....but are you afraid to shine from within? Are you giving and outgoing and sincere?
I'm a pretty woman and people like me wherever I go. I don't however...have the kickin body like you. But...if I am feeling depressed...no one notices me and I don't make friends. If I am feeling light and positive...people seem to flow to me like a magnet. Nothing changed in my looks.That is what I mean by we attract others by how we feel, our thoughts and how we act.
Men are easy for you. Women are a lot harder...because you have to be REAL. You have to let your hair down, you have to be authentic...you have to show interest in them.
I absolutely don't believe pretty women can not have women friends or have people disliking them for the reasons I mentioned before. No way. Let your TRUE beauty shine through.
Challenge yourself to make friends and think good thoughts about others. Assume people like you...not that they don't.
Good luck!
2007-02-16 17:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by kallie m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should you change who you are and what you look like... Sounds like everyone needs to grow up and stop being jealousy.. if you don't keep friend for long they were not your proper friends in the first place. Just be yourself... I would rather be on my own than have to change and alter my ways for the sake of pig headed people..
2007-02-16 18:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be friendly, dress down, don't associate with small minded people like this, and make new friends. If you are wearing ordinary jumper and jeans and not trying to make any kind of statement, I don't see why they should all be rolling their eyes at you!
2007-02-16 16:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard for me to relate to your problem, but maybe if you dress down and make sure you look at people and listen when they speak, they may respect you more. Good luck
2007-02-16 16:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look sweety, you defiantly have to be your self if people dont like u for who u r then its their loss u are beautiful on the inside and that's all that matters dont ever change especially be your self
2007-02-16 16:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by tough_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be youself,sounds like none of them are worth bothering with,try and find someone who likes you ,just the way you are.
2007-02-16 23:27:34 · answer #9 · answered by wizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself
2007-02-16 20:46:44 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋