Hello, i need some help. i am a very sexy acting and dressing lady i am 29. a lot of people tell me i look like anna nichole and ashley simpson. well i really dont care what i look like but everyone else does. they mistreat me because i am busy with light blonde hair and an very out going personality. i have a hard time keeping friends and my husband family dont like me very much his mother rolls her eyes at me. his grandma looks at me up and down and focuses on my looks. i cant keep girlfriends for the life of me. but in the inside i am a caring sincere loving perosn with a big heart. i am loyal to my friends but it doesnt matter. they still treat me bad. do i have to change my image ? i am smart but on the outside i dont look it. my sister wont even call me. she says catty things the only people i get along with are men. women try to be my friend but end up not liking me and my inlawas as well. but men are fine. my friends husbands say mean things to, i feel comfortable its just me
2007-02-16 16:24:19 · 13 answers · asked by sophie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you should always be yourself,
2007-02-16 17:47:44 · answer #1 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heather I have a friend/coworker who complains about having the same problem as you do. This is what I observe when I am around her. The minute she is around a man (whether she is with her man or not) she goes into "flirting mode" immediately and I don't even think she knows how bad she gets. She can't understand why her man does not want her out "there" without him because he knows exactly what she does. I have been out there with her and her other girlfriend. She flirts with the guys and then at the end of the night she can't understand why they are all p---ed off that she isn't going to take them home that night. She also complains that she doesn't have any girlfriends except for me and another girlfriend. I see thru all of this facade and know she is a good person inside but she just needs to pull it in a little. I guess if you are happy with who you are you don't need to change anything but something tells me that you do think there are things about yourself that needs to be looked at. A sexy woman does not have to flaunt herself by dressing provocatively or by excessive flirting to be considered sexy. I believe a sexy woman is defined by how she handles herself with men AND women.
2007-02-17 04:43:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound like you're very comfortable. There must be a reason other than your looks why you don't have friends. Many sexy looking women have friends. You say only men like you but do they really like you or do you flatter them by flirting so much with them. Are you sure your friends don't like you because you come on to their men? You must be very insecure with who you are to need to take on this persona. You can continue this behavior but you will be very lonely one day. Looks don't last forever. Besides, blond floozies are a dime a dozen. Men will use you and throw you away.
2007-02-16 16:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's one thing to be sexy,and another to show it all the time,Maybe you should dress less sexy when your around certain people. People have the tendency to judge someone for the way they dress and act.They usually can't get pass that to see what kind of person you really are.Don;t change who you really are,let them see what kind of person you are.And try telling them that they should except you for who you are,clothes don't make a person they only make bad impressions.Good luck
2007-02-16 16:32:48 · answer #4 · answered by glorene b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should'nt change the way you dress but you say that on the inside you are a caring and loving person, it's no good being inside you need to let it shine and let them see your inner beauty as well.
2007-02-16 23:40:47 · answer #5 · answered by chickadee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how abt ur husband?wat did he say?
well, u dun haf 2change urself 4de sake of any1 in de world!
coz u r u!u live ur own life!but...
indeed,u live 4urself,but u haf 2 mix around wit people,u gotta go 2work,kinda social activities,parties,church,family gatherings...
so,u jus cant stop people from judging u or talk bad behind u.
u nid 2do introspection...
when 1person cant mix well wit u,it could b their problem.but when it comes 2many people,well,I wont say its definitely ur fault!lets jus put it dis way,U gotta do self-examination.
u dun do it 4others,u do it 4urself!I bet u r looking 4ward 2having good relationship wit every1 around u as wel as ur husband,dun U? if not,u would't haf2 asked it here!
so,jus b urself n try 2get rid of those bad habits/character which doesn't match such a nice n perfect lady as u stated above!
haha...
Best Wishes!
2007-02-16 16:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by beckham 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself! What you have to ask yourself is... "am I really being myself or the stereotypical person people think i am?"
Dont lie or pretend to be something your not it only leads to bad things... and you know what??? If you are who you are then screw what anybody else things.. If they cant accept you for who you are then they are not ever going to be your friend!
2007-02-16 16:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by John D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are a lot of people telling this. Maybe it is you. Maybe you act a way so when people look at you they don't think of you as a stereotype. A new look is good for you and maybe you self esteem
2007-02-16 16:36:05 · answer #8 · answered by Kain j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going thru one of the strangest things I've ever heard of and that is women are terribly unkind to other, very attractive women. It's like they don't even want to be around you because you attract all the attenbtion. Deep down honey they envy the hell out of you...enjoy it..................
2007-02-16 16:32:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your husband loves you who cares what others think
2007-02-16 16:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself hun and bolloxs to everyone else why should you change and be someone your not. Accept you for you.
2007-02-16 16:30:33 · answer #11 · answered by gaulde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋