I met a nice man 10 months ago. He wants to get married. I feel like I'm ready. I really enjoy the married life. Is it too soon? I need an opinion. Thanks.
2007-02-16 16:14:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well in my opinion , I believe that earthly life is on a completely different level than the afterlife... meaning I think that once you die you'r spirit and conscienceness advances to a supreme level. the love of a husband and wife is an earthly feeling.I am sure all he thinks about of you is your happiness and if u have found someone who loves you and is devoted to you will be completely understood the only feeling in heaven i think is unconditional love i am sure he wants you to be loved in that way.
2007-02-16 16:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been 2 years already (sorry for your loss BTW), so you are not rushing into anything. You have known this man for 10 months - again, it's been a decent amount of time. I think you should go for it if you truly feel you are ready and you love him.
It's never too soon or too late when it comes to love. It needs to feel right and natural for you. However, don't get married just to be married again. Each person is different and just because you had a good relationship before does not not mean history will repeat itself the second time around.
Be careful who you choose to share your life with. Make sure you do love this new man. If you really can spend the rest of your life with him - then go for it. You deserve to be happy.
Good luck!
2007-02-17 00:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sirena 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not to soon not at all go and find happiness, i am sure he would have done the same thing if it were you that had passed on.
Just because you will be happy now does not mean that what you had with him was not real. It was real and you gave your love to him while he was alive, the love you had for him will never die. But now your here in this time and you have to be good to yourself. Always be good and demand that others be good to you too and you be good to other and life will treat you good. I hope that you find much happiness in this chapter of your life.
2007-02-17 00:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too soon after your husband's death or too soon after meeting this man? I think that you haven't given yourself enough time to get to know him properly. Why are you in such a hurry to get married? I'm sure you are young enough to enjoy dating for awhile. You haven't even mentioned how you feel about him. Do you love him or do you just want to be married again? I think that you should ask yourself these questions first before you jump into anything.
2007-02-17 00:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Widows can and should marry after 10 months....if they are really in love.
My mother-in-law buried two husbands and remarried exactly 12 months after both of them passed.
You said that you enjoy married life.....but do you love him? Or are you just trying to fill the loneliness?
Be fair to yourself and live the life you want. Be fair to him and marry him if you love him.
Good Luck!
2007-02-17 00:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no hard and fast rule about this. But, be sure you check this guy out very thoroughly. Get to know everything about him, his past, his friends, and his extended family. You can't be too careful. There are men out there that prey on vulnerable women, and your former husband had barely been dead a year when this "nice man" came along. You can't be too careful, girl. Bring out your investigative self and start the research.
2007-02-17 00:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention love. It's not too soon but unless you love this man don't marry him. And don't expect marriage to this man to be the same as it was with your husband. He is another man entirely, don't forget that. It can be good and I hope it will be. But it will be different. Good luck.
2007-02-17 00:23:34 · answer #7 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I f you feel it is the right thing to do and your feelings are genine then go for it.. but if you are just lonely (understandbley) then wait a bit. Two years though is a long time... go by your heart not what everyone else thinks..
2007-02-17 00:18:24 · answer #8 · answered by Irie 123 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say no it is not too soon.Don't let anything stand in the way of your happiness. I have bin alone for a long time because I have let too much get in the way of my happiness.
2007-02-17 00:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time is obviously as per your feeling for your past husband.
2007-02-17 00:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by Tom T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋