Why my husband behaves like this ?

Question

My married life is 12 years.We have 10 years old son. TTC from
last 6 yrs,I have Hypo-Thyroid problem & over weight. He always finds mistakes in me (reguarding food & exercise etc) so most of the time he is too much rude and angry with me. It is not that he dont love me.

Can some one help me out from these situation:-
1. How to deal with my Hypothroid?
2. How to get pregnant once again?
3. Weight chart for females (height & weight) ?
4. Fooding habbits & excercise?
5. Any thing which can improve our relationship?
6. My body temperature is very hot compare to my hubby. Why?

Answer 1

I have to agree with the previous answers. Particularly, why bring another child into the world if it won't be in a harmonious household? Also if you think you are heavy now, what do you think another pregnancy will do to your body?! 10 years ago your body was much more able bounce back from that stress.

Carrying a child while you are a bit older and heavy is a risk both to you and the child. The risk of pregnancy with hypothyroidism I can't comment on, but the risk of giving yourself diabeties and the potential health risks to a child in the womb are not good. You would be pretty selfish threatening the health of your own baby like that.

Working backwards on your list:
6) body temperature is also a function of calories and heat loss. If you are overwieght and hypo thyroid, you are not burning many calories in day to day exercise. A heavy person has LESS surface area compared to the mass by which to dissapate heat, and thus you should be hotter than if at your normal weight. Also I find that my body regulates heat and cold much better when I can exercise vigorously for at least an hour a day (run 10 to 12 kilometers in an hour for example of vigorous)

5) improving a relationship is work on both your parts. Counseling also helps, but think about the old joke: "Woman marry men expecting to change them and they never can; Men marry women expecting they will never change and they always do." There is a grain of truth to it... What you loved about your husband when you married him is probably still there. Although all people change as they grow. Try to be the gal that won your husband's heart. Losing the excess weight is good for YOU and your life. The skinnier you is also the gal he married. In many ways, women have it easy, because men are attracted visually and women are attracted by money, power, brains, strength, etc. All you need to do is look good to have men falling all over themselves for you. Guys have to practically win the lottery to be attractive to women. If he is concerned about your weight, you shouldn't take offense. It may be that he doesn't want you dying of an early heart attack and end up having to raise your son all by himself. It also may be that he wants the sexy gal he married back again.

4) eating habits and exercise. eat many small meals rather than anything big. Exercise an hour a day at the very least. If you exercise in the morning, it will help you increase your metabolism for the entire day. if you exercise in the evening, it may raise your metabolism and make it difficult to sleep properly. I exercise one hour to maintain a constant weight. I must exercise 2 hours in order to lose weight. the first half hour of exercise is simply warming your body up for the weight loss.... no weight loss or additional fitness comes from the first half hour... With an hour of exercise, you net a half hour of weight loss. With two hours of exercise, you net 90 minutes of weight loss.

As to diet... my trainer told me "Carbs are the fuel for the fire that fat is burned in"; In other words, you need carbs like bread, rice, lentils, vegitables in order to burn fat. you need SOME fat in your diet, but fat is the most compact source of calories. What you want is lower caloric intake. to lose weight, you must consume less calories than you burn. To burn off the excess fat in your body you must eat less for several months. Protein such as lean chicken and fish is needed in small amounts unless you have a balanced vegetarian diet.

3) Weight charts are typically based on "AVERAGE" american and european bodies which are FAT. Even so, they can give you a scale of reference.

http://www.healthchecksystems.com/heightweightchart.htm#frame

Also has some info and good links. Easy conversion from feet'+inches" to cm, and pounds to kilos, I leave to you. But the factors are 2.54 cm/inch , 12 inches in a foot, and 2.2 pounds per kilogram.

2) Why? it may be your body, it may be his, but if you both want this badly, some fertility doctors can help. I suggest adopting a baby as another possibility. I have friends who gave up and adopted a russian baby and then got pregnant right away... funny how fate works out.

1) Like everyone said... Get thee to a doctor woman! medical supplements (hormones) can help with the thyroid problems, and you will have more energy and may get pregnant easier, and naturally lose weight easier.

Answer 2

1. How to deal with my Hypothroid?
eat more frequent like every two hours, however make these meals small portion, healthy and balanced meals. Eating often will speed up metabolism. Cut out all trans fats, no fried food, limit sat fat, sugar, sugar substitutes, and salt, most diet foods are no good they limit calaries, yet have even worse subtances in them for taste. Eat organic foods and nonprocessed foods. A supplement like Thyrin-ATC can help with you thyroid directly by giving needed nutrition to speed things up

2. How to get pregnant once again? work on your marriage first. your husband needs to stop finding fault in everything you do or he'll continue with the kids there or even at the kids themselves. either way it's not good for them, nor you. When this problem is solved, that in it'self will make you more apt to conceive and carry a baby, because your emotional health plays a big part in that, your weight a second part
3. Weight chart for females (height & weight) ?http://www.weightlossresource.com/ideal-weight/
4. Fooding habbits & excercise?see above for food habits also snack on fruits, not crackers, limit potatoes, bread, use oil instead of butter
any exercise that you will stick with that gets your heart rate up. join a fitness group or team up with a friend to keep you motivated. when you can lay on the coach sit, when you can sit, stand, when you can stand walk, when you can walk run. sit the exercise bike in front of the tv when you want to watch that favorite show.
5. Any thing which can improve our relationship? calm thurough comunication of what is bothering you and what you would like to see take place, non-judgment however, for this causes hostility. example:I feel depressed when I hear that my cooking isn't good, could you give me some advice on what you would like me to change, an ingrediant maybe, so it can be better.
6. My body temperature is very hot compare to my hubby. Why? fat stores heat, insulation. body temps differ no matter what due to circulation differences, food intake, exercise, etc. genetics

Answer 3

i sugest going to Curves, they set up a diet plan for you and give you the support and encouragement that you need, plus after your metabolism finds a level point at a lower weight the diet stops (yeah)

a healthy weight helps you concieve, as you prolly know
and it will make you feel sexy and want to have sex, leading to concieving, then it wont be such a chore...lol

to imporve your relationship first i sugest...talk about how you feel when he finds these mistakes!
then take a trip for the weekend to reconnect, i understand with kids you cant always do this so maybe wait until he is staying at a friends and rent a hotel room....
get all dressed up, dont see each other all day and meet there
think about what you want to talk about, try talking about your past and future...this will reconnect you
oh try going to babyzones.com that site has alot of info on concieving
and if all else fails try implantations, and fetrile tests at your doctor!
good luck

Answer 4

Once you get to a healthy weight, I think you'll find most of your problems disappear. Your body temp is hot because you are fat.

Here's a basic weight guideline:
5'4" - weigh no more than 145 lbs
5'6" - weigh no more than 155 lbs
5'8" - weight no more than 163 lbs

Cut out all soda (even diet) and drink skim milk. Don't eat anything purchased in a restaurant.

Answer 5

My husband will hardly ever pass procuring, this is not his element. yet when he does contain me he's a an exceptionally sturdy interest about it. He doesn't whine, doesn't attempt to hurry me and is not in any respect rude. If my husband change into any of those belongings you describe, I basically does no longer pass procuring with him. era. the international wont bring about case you do not keep mutually....and it is going to keep the peace. ** it doesn't count number who you're or who's paying, there is no choose for rudeness. i detect those who imagine they're typically rude completely in accordance with them being the buyer are thoroughly boastful and disrespectful....i does no longer pass in public with all people with those features.

Answer 6

TRY innovative methods of sex keep yourself busy in things u like renovate urself I also feel bored like u only then I spent time with myself talk to people like me on computers try to keepaway from any arguments repeat to myself 10 times a day that I will not fight over the sitiuations and noy overact

Answer 7

If he's rude and angry with you not only does he not deserve you, but he also doesn't love you. When some loves you they treat you with kindness and respect. If that isn't what he's giving you how can you expect he'd give to your child?

I pray you find peace. And realize a child deserves more...

Answer 8

it sounds like your husband is just rude. no one should have to put up with someone who is constantly finding things wrong with you. you have a medical condition that is not your fault. what if he had some medical problems? whould he want you to treat him like that? probably not. if you want to stick in your marriage then maybe seek marital counseling. if i were you i wouldnt try for a nother baby while being treated like that. sounds like there are some deeper issues other than trying to concieve. good luck to you.

Answer 9

Dear
Pl don't worry. You will got satisfied with my reply:

1) Consult your Doctor
2) Consult both Gynic & Infertility specialist (Also examine your husband's semen analysis)
3) Search on Net
4,5,6) pl send me your email , I will reply you.

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Answer 10

You need to see a doctor, now. Ask your hubby to get appointment.