Every time my stepdads dad comes over he acts a bit weird. He never used to do this but the past three times he came over for a visit he acts a bit sleazy. He always stares at me and when i gave him a hug, he started touching my waste and when i went to get a drink he followed me into the kitchen and started massaging my shoulders, and when i tried to get away from him he kept doing it harder. I don't know if he means any harm by it but it makes me feel uncomfortable, i also told my bf and best friend about it, and they said i should tell my mum. I'm worried that she won't believe me and i don't want to cause an argument. I have kept it to myself. Is it wrong what he is doing? please help.
2007-02-16 15:49:16 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is not correct at all . Just be firm and tell him to behave like father , not like a romantic friend . And second time he does , you just create a scene there itself in front of every body in the house , like you just ask him in front of every body to repeat the same , what ever he was doing in the absence of others . You also make it a point , do not try to hug him or allow your self with him , while alone . Take care .
2007-02-16 15:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are uncomfortable with his actions ... I think you should let your Mother know. The shoulder thing seems harmless enough but the waste is questionable. As far as causing an arguement, you should be able to go to your Mother about anything and everything. If the adults choose to disagree this is their issue. Be honest and talk to your Mom. Good luck
2007-02-16 15:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by daffodil 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if i was in your shoes i would already said stop acting funny around after THAT a wood of told a grown up and if a specific grown up didnt belive me call the cops tell some one else like a teacher or a best friend or slap him in the face and say look stay back or reall call 911 but dont let himm know you are calling 911 set him up wiht the police and then you can get some MONEY yup and iam only 14 i just type wut i think
2007-02-16 15:59:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you spot on undemanding, is what's known. get mutually: in case you spot someone hiccuping that continually known yet when its nonstop for days or months, that is maximum in all probability no longer known. also if someone grow to be born with some thing like six fingers on each and each and every hand would no longer look known to us besides the undeniable fact that it is known to that individual. So from time to time that is someone aspect that no one else will comprehend.
2016-12-04 06:58:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be safe and comfortable in your home. If someone is doing something to make you feel otherwise, please speak up. Tell you mother or another trusted adult what is going on. This man is "testing the waters" and will undoubtedly try something else if you do not stand up for yourself. Do not allow him to victimize you because what he is doing is definitely wrong. Tell someone who can help immediately!
2007-02-16 15:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by wildkitty822003 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would tell him how uncomfortable his touching makes you feel. Tell him in a firm but quiet way. He has no reason to touch you in any way at all.
If he pays no attention to your request, then tell his son and your mom together that if it happens again you will call the authorities.
This is serious stuff.
2007-02-16 15:58:11 · answer #6 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your mother. It could be a medical problem that is causing the man to behave in this manner (alzhiemer's) or he could be just a sleazy old man and you do not need to be subjected to it.
2007-02-16 15:55:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are you? You have two options, approach this man in a assertive manner and tell him your really not comfortable with the way he displays his affection or tell your mother but sometimes I think it's best to approach people directly.
2007-02-16 16:10:16 · answer #8 · answered by Cappachino 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it makes you feel uncomforable it's wrong. It's not normal. Just tell your mom, if she doesn't believe you that's too bad but at least you confronted it and it will probably snap him into shape when he knows you are onto his sleazy ways.
2007-02-16 15:55:35 · answer #9 · answered by Christina G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah...he sounds like a pervert and he is hoping that you are just going to accept it! Tell your mom...she may surprise you and tell him to leave you alone! Plus, stay away from him or at least, do not put yourself alone with him!!!
2007-02-16 15:55:11 · answer #10 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋