2007-02-16 15:18:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Just let them know you're there and they can talk to you. Don't be overly strict but don't let them go around doing anything, either. Do fun things wiht them like board games, watching movies or get them to help wiht things around the house and bond at the same time. And when they do something they aren't supposed to be firm but don't yell and scream, just find an appropriate punishment. Also don't talk about anything like period/breast development with your friends around them or make big deals about them. It really depends on the teen and what relationship you already have, but I hoped I helped. Sorry I don't know much to do with male teenagers.
2007-02-16 19:32:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not enough information. Tell me the circumstances in which you now have to raise a pre-teen, male, female, both, how many? I have Experience and may can offer helpful advice, but I need more information. Go to add details in the screen of your question and tell me/us. Just added: I disagree with amy s. games are fun but my stepson played computer games for the first five years of his life until I married his mom, and he is antisocial, does not like any of his peers, thinks he is better than everyone around him, and used to pitch fits whenever he would loose a game or answer a question in school wrong. He has improved immensly since a male authority figure has come into his life (I AM daddy to him, and I have been with he, his little sister, and thier mom for five years). Games are fun but because of unrestricted computer gaming, my ten year old step son (SON) faces challenges in his life that he never should have had to face. Competitiveness is good and being a winner is good, but when one cannot accept defeat or being wrong, it is a disease. Just added: Good answer Wby. Just added: You have good suggestions amy s, sorry I went off about the games and stuff, but that part touches me hard because of my boy. Sorry again.
2007-02-16 23:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by acesfourpal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first thing that yu should know is that you are to be patient. Girls often tend to be objective to their mothers, and boys also tend to be objective to their fathers. Don't suddenly start talking about stages of life, and about thier private life, or even how they are growing up now to quickly. Those types of bonds oftern get teens and pre-teens not interested, and upset. If you do start talking about that too quickly, they might not want to talk to you because they may think that every topic will be about that, and it will make them feel uncomfortable, like you are forcing the topic to them. But just start to bond, like a friend, ask about boys, or movies, just anything that teens talk about. You can watch a television show, and talk about what he/she should or should not have done, just to get to a close bond. Close bonding is the best way for them to see you as a friend, not an enemy. Bonding can also open many doors; the child can learn so much about you, and you could learn so much about him/her. Just remeber bonding, and close relationships. Not jumping into everything one time, but just having patience. The time will come for you to ask the questions.
Hope that everything goes well!
Bye
2007-02-17 00:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Laugh a lot. Play games. Be sincere. Make memories. Carry a deck of cards with you at all times and take advantage of every opportunity to just sit and play... games in the car, games at home.. games watching the Oscars... games games games... it teaches competitiveness.. how to win and lose... challenges the mind... all kinds of good things that will help with academics and life-performance... and.. it'll build lots of memories for those real teenaged years!
2007-02-16 23:23:32 · answer #4 · answered by Amy S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nicky
all i can say is good luck lol i have 4 kids and my third in line is now 14 and let me tell you all three have been differant have patience and stick to your guns when you lay out the rules also remember you are the parent not the friend i made that mistake with my daughter i wish you the best of luck
2007-02-16 23:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by bakeryartist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a parent and a friend. Stand your ground about things. teach right from wrong. Teach things important for the future eg. cooking. Have fun. Don't expect an easy ride.
2007-02-16 23:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by ★☆✿❀ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pick and choose your battles. BE consistent with spouse on discipline. Always be there for them. Love them, nurture them. Have lots of family involvement. They are going through rough times. Help them through it.
2007-02-19 09:37:16 · answer #7 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
k well when i was like idk 12,or so i was really going through that hormonal kinda leave me alone,your annoying,dads a dork,and all that stuff. so i wouldn't say just leave em alone lol,just be like more hippish lol idk,like maybe try to let them be just a tad bit more independent,as in maybe letting go 2 the mall alone,or even the movie's with a couple of guy friends or just their best friends,and don't ask "how was your day" that really gets annoying
2007-02-17 00:27:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when they dont feel like talking (and i'm talking about reg. stuff, not serious stuff) dont push it..... we just dont feel like talking sometimes.... u'll have to live w/ it.... i would also recommend (if ur pre-teen likes reading) to get them "chicken soup for the pre-teens soul".... i read it and its a good book... there is two of them.....
2007-02-16 23:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Pick your battles.
2007-02-17 08:03:11 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋