My husband favors our first daughter. Our second one was not planned and he blames things on me. He works out of town and when he calls he only asks how the oldest is and never asks about the baby. It tears me up. And how do you think this baby will feel when she gets older? Anyone know how I can get my husband to start paying more attention to her...she's only 3 months old.
2007-02-16 15:07:52 · 7 answers · asked by Aimee B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My husband is the same way. He favors our first daughter and like you our second child wasn't planned and he blamed me as well. I have constantly said things to him about the way that he treats our younger daugher. Our daughters are 9 and 8. It hasn't gotten any better. I think you should talk to him. Maybe that might work for you. Especially since your daughter is still young. Mine notices the difference that he shows my other daughter. She has really distanced herself from him as a result. It is really sad. Best Luck to you.
2007-02-16 17:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by gasnshngrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since she's only 3 months old, thank God she doesn't know it yet.
You need to talk to him about his behavior and tell him once she gets older he needs to pay attention to her, because if he doesn't she'll have problems and he shouldn't wonder when she doesn't pay attention to him when he gets old. On the other hand, once she gets older she might just become Daddy's girl, right now he hasn't much to do with, but that could change and she'll win him over all by herself. And the blaming part, he has to drop this. This is ridiculous, it takes two to make a baby.
2007-02-16 23:19:48 · answer #2 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that he just doesn't feel connected to the baby yet because it is a baby and relies more on you than an older child would. Things might change. Dads usually have past issues that determine how they interact with their kids and its usually an unconcious thing. I treat my girls better than I treat my son. I know its wrong, but I interact with him the same way I was interacted with when I was young. Habits like this are hard to break.
2007-02-16 23:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by Joshua L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh... that is horrible. :( I think that when the baby gets a little older-- he will learn to love her just the same. Baby's are tough at first... My husband was the same way-- w/ our un-planned baby... but when our son started to smile, and become a "little human" like he says... my husband fell in love...
Just give it time, when the baby's personality starts to show- he will come around!
2007-02-16 23:13:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him exactly how you feel about this and if he can't make an effort to try harder I would leave him and see how he liked that. If that didn't change things then obviously he was not meant to be her dad. You can't stand back and watch this happen believe me one day she will despise him and it will hurt you to see that every day.
2007-02-16 23:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by Momof_2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is pray about it and leave it in God's hand!
He will soften his heart and soon he will wake up! Have patience and do not look at the circumstaces....look at the Word!
2007-02-16 23:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by gametrek1 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ALL I CAN SAY IS AS S HOLE
2007-02-16 23:17:56 · answer #7 · answered by chex_1r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋