Ok i have a two month old beautiful baby girl. Its a long story but the guy moved to FL when i was 5 months prego fully knowing it was his. He has never seen her, sent her anything, no money no diapers, and well i just found out he just got another girl prego. I haven't filed for child support cuz my life doesnt revolve around money. But i have been thinking about it to show him that these kids arent cheap. He also has a 3 year old that he never sees. Somebody just give me some advice to go on. He makes me so mad i dont know what to do. He has a beautiful little girl who he doesnt care about and he just goes and gets some other girl pregnant, not even caring how it makes me feel.
2007-02-16 15:07:07 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Ok guys, thank you for your help. I guess i wasnt too specific about myself i was just mad at him. I am with a wonderful guy now, and i was with him before this jerk. We were engaged, i got scared left, found this loser, got pregnant, he moved to FL, and i got back with the other guy cuz he still loved me even through all that. I was stupid but i wouldnt change it. I have a beautiful little girl now, even if he wants to miss out on her life.
2007-02-16 15:24:36 · update #1
I would ask him to voluntarily have his rights terminated. If he didn't agree I would sue for child support. Don't threaten him with the child support just ask him to terminate his rights.
2007-02-16 15:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're doing okay on your own so far, but I would go after the child support. Being a single mom can be challenging - it's hard to save for the future. Take that child support check, and, if you can, stick it all into a savings/money market account and don't touch it. You can make up for your baby girl's lame-o father by sending her to college or paying for her wedding some day. It may seem mean or frivolous now, but I'm sure your daughter will appreciate it some day.
2007-02-16 15:18:42 · answer #2 · answered by Cob 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get him for child support. You can file a child support case. Let the agency look for him and nail him. He has a obligation to support his child financially. Its easy to get someone pregnant and not be responsible. He has to be a adult about this and stop behaving like a child. Also you cannot make him be a father to your child obvious he doesn't care about the two of you. But good for you that you have someone that loves you. Another suggestion have his parental rights terminated that way your baby has no ties with the man that is just a sperm donor. Good luck.
2007-02-20 11:31:03 · answer #3 · answered by beenie 21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the moment you gave birth things weren't about you anymore and never were to begin with.Any judge and true parent will tell you that.I say file for the kid just don't do what bad parents do and use the money for themselves.Put the money away for college.If the dad never wanted a kid to begin with and doesn't want any part in the kids life then he can just sign over his rights.What ever happens you still have the better half of him and that alone is a lesson in life that is so real and beautiful its sad the father was too scared to experience it all.From one mother to another good luck and god bless.
2007-02-16 15:37:39 · answer #4 · answered by orchids_divine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than anything you do need to charge him for child support as this is about the only way you may be able to find out about your daughters half siblings. And to make him legally responsible for your daughter and his actions towards you both. He obviously see's his manhood in 'getting women pregnant'. It is not the woman or his offspring, it is about him and his superior male 'impregnating' ability.
One of the most forgotten areas in cases like this is the medical genetic inheritance and again if you are registered to receive child support you have an avenue to find him if needed re medical issues.
Another question I have is what about his parents, do they know he has all these children that are their grandchildren? He certainly is a very selfish male.
I do not give advice as the ultimate decision is yours as to what it is you do for your daughter. It is obvious from what you have written that you are angry and hurt because your daughter will not have her 'natural' father in her life in anyway, shape or manner. This is his loss not hers.
However, he does have the responsibility to provide towards her care and any other children he fathers past and future. And as you say "these kids are not cheap" and they only become more expensive as they grow.
Again I mention the claiming of child support as an avenue for your daughter if she decided to try to contact him.
At this time, enjoy these precious times with your daughter and love being able to have her all to yourself as that is so much better than having a father around who does not want the child.
Good luck for the future and enjoy the present with your daughter.
2007-02-16 15:38:32 · answer #5 · answered by sag_kat2chat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess what? Most men don't give a shi-t about kids. They want sex from a woman, not 18 year financial burdens!
Edit: So great, you're a whore that gets pregnant from a loser and expects the 'nice' guy to raise your kid. He should kick your sorry a-ss out of his house.
2007-02-16 15:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by alpha_troll07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if money not a big deal think of it this way for one he is getting off scotch free while you take care of every thing. Second if you do nail him for child support, you could be saving for her future if you don't really need it to support her. Also its his loss. Best of luck to you in your decisions!
2007-02-16 15:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by Momof_2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
child support isn't about your world not revolving around money. it has nothing to do with you. that money is owed to your daughter. even if you don't want the money, get it. put it in a college fund for her or something. the only way he is going to know that kids aren't cheap is if he has to pay for them.
2007-02-16 15:23:46 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's nice to hear a mother who isnt all down for the revenge part! lol I suggest you get the child support though, he needs to realize that for every action there is a re-action and your child will need the money some day.
2007-02-16 15:13:26 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs McNallen<3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its his loss! He is clearly a loser. Just love your little girl as much as possible. U really don't need him. If she asks about her father then try to find him, but I would cross that bridge when I get to it. Good luck!
2007-02-16 15:25:34 · answer #10 · answered by jdubsmom06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋