I was raped a few weeks ago, and I feel like I can't tell anyone because I liked parts of it. Should I tell?

Question

No, I am not a pervert. This actually happened to me, and I feel ashamed. Please, someone help me with this.

Many of you are acting like the "liked some of it" part is disturbing. I've heard from other sources that it is common for this to happen during rape.

Obviously, I shouldn't have worded my question this way, because most of you are not taking me seriously. I need help, and I'm not getting much.

Answer 1

Any time a woman is raped, there are many feelings involved that are confusing and overwhelming. Guilt, shame, fear, helplessness,etc. are a part of having your power taken away from you. You should definitely talk to someone about it to help you sort through your feelings- you don't have to suffer through this alone. In regards to liking some of it- it is natural to become physically aroused when the body is stimulated, even if you don't want to or don't intend to. You can't control the body's natural response to physical stimuli. You should not feel ashamed or doubt whether or not you were raped because of this. However, because this is increasing your confustion and shame, you really need to find someone to talk to about it before the issue becomes blurred for you. Call a hotline if need be for a starting point. Don't feel ashamed- you did nothing wrong. The person who broke your trust and violated your safe boundaries is the one at fault. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

The pleasure is just a physiological response and is fairly common. No one will think it means it wasn't rape, except perhaps a small group of idiots like the ones on yahoo answers.

Rape is about consent, not enjoyment. Many sexually abused children find themselves confused by feelings of pleasure. I very much doubt the people that have criticised you here would extend the same misunderstandings in a case of paedophilia. But then the stupids always like things to be black and white. Things like this never are.

You don't need to feel ashamed, if you seek help you'll realise that you're not alone, and not unnatural. I hope you find the comfort you need, you have my deepest sympathies.

Answer 3

If you said NO at anytime, and this person just carried on, then is rape, whatever anyone thinks, it is, according to law, RAPE.
It is NATURAL for you to have liked some part of it... you've got very sensitive organs over there that are MEANT to cause a good sensation and pleasant feelings.
Don't be ashamed at all... and anyway, when you tell this to anyone... even to the police, there's no need AT ALL for you to tell them that you liked a bit of it.
Maybe the guy didn't really get to hurt you or wasn't too aggressive. Also, maybe as an auto-protection reaction, unconsciously, you just gave in instead of trying to fight, which would obviously caused for the aggressor to get more violent and really hurt you... therefore don't be ashamed, it was a self-protection reaction.
It would be better if you go to the police, maybe the next girl will try to fight this guy and he'll get violent, ending up hurting this girl or even killing her. Usually this sort of degenerated people end up killing their victims.

Take good care and, again, don't be ashamed.
Regards, Lifeguard.

Answer 4

If what you're saying is true, you need to tell the police or someone what happened. You're in an emotional conflict which can happen after trauma, remember that some hostages actually fall in love with their tormentor, therefore its nothing to be ashamed off. However rape is rape and you do not need to tell anybody that you enjoyed parts of it. You need help and also help with a counsellor like a psychiatrist whom you need to tell the truth and who then can give you an explanation why you felt this way and then you can get it out of your system and you can let go of it.
Good Luck

Answer 5

if you were truly raped i am sorry for what happened to you. i was raped a few years ago and there were 2 guys - and none of it was enjoyable to me. However you say that you dont feel like you can tell anyone yet you just told the world. Try talking to your mom or a close friend. I havent talked to anyone other than my boyfriend about it and at times I think that maybe it would help - there are times when a lot of that **** comes back out of nowhere and it is far from enjoyable. good luck and I hope everything goes well

Answer 6

There is no question about it. You should tell someone immediately. I made the mistake of waiting a long time and it still, after 8 years damaging. You are human. It is not anything you should be ashamed of. Your body still reacts. I cried my eyes out while being molested, everytime. But there was times that i was ashamed b/c my body told me it felt good. Your not alone. And most definitely not a pervert. Get some form of therapy(doesnt have to be a shrink if thats not your thing). Take care.

Answer 7

Hello there Marissaa=], How awful for you to have had such a harrowing experience and yet, you feel like you cannot tell anyone! I do not think that you are a pervert, and please try not to feel ashamed. You are only human, and us humans all have feelings that we know may not be the norm, and sometimes we can't explain our feelings rationally. I think it may help if you go and see your doctor. Not because I think you are crazy, or anything like that; I just think that he or she will be the best way to start on the road to your recovery. Everything you tell your doctor is in complete confidence, and they will be able to help you find a way of sorting this out. Write your experience down beforehand, just in case you find that you start to feel embarrassed about relaying particular details to your doctor.
Dont do nothing about this hon!! Think about the next girl who could go through the same as what you did, or maybe worse!!
Don't keep this to yourself, you will only suffer more and more as time goes on. Let me know how you get on eh? I wish you all the best!

Answer 8

I am first of all sorry that it happened. As for telling anyone because "you liked parts of it". But maybe thats why women feel so much shame about rape, cuz at the time they did ***. My ex said she did. I wouldnt be able to even get...ya know? unless my partner was willing My ex gf used to tell me she fantasised about being raped from the time she had her first orgasm.She said all girls do weather or not they admit it. Keep in mind I think rape is soooo wrong! If you want to role play it with a partner thats different. but to make a Long explanation -short- If it feels good do it. If it doesn't...no means no! call the cops. (just be damn sure you want to involve those*&(&^% )

Answer 9

No. you are not a pervert, and no, you shouldn't feel ashamed. You are having a normal reaction to an abnormal situation. You have endured a very frightening and dangerous event in your life, and you did every thing right because you survived. Rape is not a crime of passion, it is a crime of power, control and hate. You really must talk to someone, and I hope you will contact your local Rape Crisis Center. They can help you, and get you the help you seriously need. You don't have to report the assault to police, but I hope you do. Please, please, call the Rape Crisis Center in your area. You need to talk out your feelings, because if you do not, they will only become overwhelming. You also need medical attention. Rape Crisis. Call them. You will be in my thoughts and prayers...

Answer 10

God I wish someone had been there to tell me what to do about it on Sept 11, 2005. but no, because I was drunk I assmed responsibilty for it and dated the guy for 5months because I felt like a whore for "letting" him take my virginity that night. The fact that I dated him lowers my credibility, but it doesn't change the facts of what happened. A kiss is just a kiss and not an invite to take advantage of a girl in a drunken stupor. Well, maybe not a stupor, I was sober enough to say no, but not enough to weasle my way out of it in the end. Didn't fully understand what was going on until it was too late and the matress was already stained.

Go to the police. No man should ever get away with things like this. If a girl says no, a girl says no. it doesn't matter if she willingly kissed him or even went so far as letting him partially undress her. Nothing condones a guy pushing a girl THAT far.

Put me in a prison with a way to identify all of the pedophiles and rapists and you'll have a huge number of eunichs on your hands come the end of the day as well as a handfull that died trying to protect their balls.