This is my time to shine.....any advice....?

Question

I am going to a leadership conference tomorrow its a time to
see the power and strength of networks - it's all about people influencing people. And I really want to break out of my shell and really go and have fun, meet new people, and rbuild relationships that stick, and learn all that I can. Well the last conference I went to I broke out of my shell, and opened up to my learning partner, and she was a senior and it was like she wasnt really interested in becoming friends, and that is my main goal, and so at first I was discouraged that I opened up for nothing, but I am going to give it another shot any advice on my approach this time around. My goal is to make at least one friend or even an aquantance during this conference.

Answer 1

I often go to these type of leaderships conferences also anyone of the first things I do is make sure you dress professionally unless you're told to dress casual and think of one or 2 things you'd like to improve on campus, community, etc so that you will have a great opener that will make others aware that you have plans for your future and to help improve your school or work, etc.

another thing I do is I make a point to go introduce myself to ALL the keynote speakers even if it's just to say thanks but if they talked about something that interested you, ask how you can get more involved and for me in most cases that leads to great networks and friendships.... you should also talk to the people at your table and introduce yourself to as many people as possible and talk to those you click with for few moments or longer :o)

These are some great ways to make networks and connections and even really good friends :o) GL at your conference

Answer 2

I'm not sure what you mean by 'opening up', but you may have come across as too friendly. In professional situations, that doesn't always work well. The time to 'open up' is after you've established a connection and are looking to take it to the next level.

I would go with being informative & helpful. Kick off initial conversations with neutral topics, like the conference itself, how business is going and what your plans for the day are. These topics might 'hook' others and you can get a sense of who you might be able to connect with. You've been to (at least) one of these already - you kind of know what's going on now & could provide useful guidance to others who are new to this type of thing.

If the event has workshops, you might try connecting with someone who is attending the same workshops you are and 'partnering' on notes and projects. Can you switch 'learning partners' or pick one out before hand?

Based on the conference content, have one or two professional goals worked out. This will give you other options to work on and several talking points that stay on the professional level.

Your intentions are great, just try to read people a little better and focus your efforts in the best direction possible. Don't be afraid to switch up tactics if things seem to be going poorly.

Answer 3

Hi -

I go to "Leadership" conferences also. They probably are different then yours, and are for my business, but leadership is a big part of our business.

I am sure that most of the people going to your conference are there for the same reason you are. Because you are a good person, who is interested in succeeding in life, and wants to go out and do something with theirselves!

So, all you have to do is find that person that you click with. The easiest thing to do is to go up to someone (probably who is standing alone, or doesn't look very busy) and just say to them "Hi, I don't know anyone here, and you looked like a nice person". You can do it any way you want. After you guys get slow on the convo, ask her/him if they can introduce you to some people.

You know what, I was so nervous the first business meeting I went to, but at the same time, I was determined to go up to people who looked at me, and said hi, I'm Ryan. There are EXTREMELY nice people out there who want to meet, and help new people. They can come to you, but the sooner you go to them, the sooner you will develop a friendship!

I hope this helps, and good luck on your journey with networks (wasn't sure if you were talking about network marketing, and if you are, it will be even easier meeting someone who will be your friend!)

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Answer 4

I've learned that the best way is to just stand back and observe. Sometimes coming on to strong is a major turn off. Feel people out before you start talking a mile a minute. Search for someone who may have something in common with you and take it from there. Be as real as you can be. Most people can spot a phony a mile away, so just be yourself and take it slow. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Look for commonalities. Sometimes people only think they're far apart when they really have a lot in common.

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Answer 6

My advice is to skip the conference and go to the park.

Answer 7

sounds like you got it going on...good luck at your conference and have a great time :)

Answer 8

i really liked Ryan M's comment.. that is exactly what i would do. Have a good time and just be yourself hun.

Answer 9

Yeah. Once you come out of your shell put it up to your ear and listen to see if you can hear the ocean.

Answer 10

Shine on you crazy diamond.