Ok so this is gonna be a long story and probably have to add additional details as I go along. Anyway Two years ago in college, I was outgoing but reserved, I didn't ask to hang out with anyone often unless they asked me to hang with them. Summer of 2005 I was sexually assaulted(Don't worry everything's taken care of, both legal and counseling and I won!) and all throughout the year until August of 2006, I hid in my dorm room, never came out and wore stinky clothes to ward off everyone. Also I was very depressed and space off at work. It'd take me 15 minutes to realize I was staring at someone and they'd get all freaked out and I'd be embarrased.
Well I finally decided to get help for my bipolar and obsessive thoughts(random disgusting thoughts I couldn't get rid of, it's not the fear of it or anything, I just couldn't control my mind like normal people). It helped.
My third year in college in the fall, I was a tad more outgoing and said hi was friendly..more coming...
2007-02-16 14:25:09 · 3 answers · asked by Manic Victim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was still too shy to ask people if I can hang out with them. I upped my dose(dr. permission of course) and this semester(since January) I became VERY outgoing. I spoke my mind, I flirted with the guys, got me a friend with benefits, made new friends and stuff but....
A friend of mine said that people are getting freaked out and you are becoming too strong and 'stalkerish'
I didn't realize what I was doing. He said well don't knock on the door everyday or talk to people everyday, and don't stand by someone's door for 15 minutes(I don't intentionally do that, I just space off and think about other stuff I need to do, forgetting where I was), several students even complained to the Res. Director. Then I realized I'm becoming manic and I didn't realize it.
God I hate myself you know? I wanted to make friends, go out and stuff, and when people told me to not do something or stop, I would! So um suggestions on how to be outgoing and cool but not TOO much and not reserved?
2007-02-16 14:28:48 · update #1
The summer of 05 is not bothering me I'm healed from it
2007-02-16 14:34:56 · update #2
You asked if EVERYONE could help you out... no, everyone won't, and I would think that some of them can't either. Hehe. Well, anyway, I'd like to try.
If you go to ESF, the solution is simple. If not, well, the fact that you went from outcast to friends-with-benefits-haver says something for how people perceive each other. Opinions of people change, and if you work on consciously not acting TOO outgoing, it will probably work, and over time people will see you differently, you know? Your reputation as a human being isn't scarred forever just because people thought you were creepy once. Time heals all wounds, right?
If that doesn't work, and it probably won't, take solace in the fact that there is no such thing as free will and that nothing is your fault.
2007-02-16 14:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please look for a college therapist or psychologist to speak with. A therapist could give you additional ideas on how to work through these feelings.Even though the incident that's looming over you happened the summer of '05, you may still need to revisit that time in order to go past it.
2007-02-16 22:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a lot of stuff to handle.
you are trying too hard,just relax and concentrate on your studies.
breathe ,breathe.
2007-02-16 23:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋