What is wrong with me!? Please respond?

Question

I am totally attracted to men, I love them, want to get married, have kids, etc. But I find myself sexually aroused my lesbian porn and women's bodies. When im out in public I never feel attracted to women, never, it actually grosses me out when I see a woman in person and think about lesbian acts. But when im fantasizing, its usually about a girl. am I bi? what is the matter with me? should I be worried?

Answer 1

There's not a thing wrong with you. Let's get something straight (no pun intended):

If you don't want to sleep with women in real life, you aren't bisexual. You aren't a lesbian. Lesbians and bisexual women want to sleep with women, not just watch it happen in porn or in their fantasies.

I always find it amazing how people seem to think that porn or fantasies dictate their sexual orientation. Yes, sometimes it does, but I know tons of people who like porn that doesn't reflect their actual desires. For instance, you wouldn't believe the number of lesbians who enjoy, of all things, gay male porn. They don't want to be with men in real life, but there's something inherent in gay male porn that turns some of these women on. If anything, that should be proof enough that what happens in our heads is no direct indication to what's happening in our sexuality.

Fantasies are fantasies, otherwise we'd call them "plans for Friday night", you know?

I think you're a perfectly normal straight woman who likes to kink things up in her life by opening up her fantasy life, and that's fine. Variety is, after all, the spice of life.

I'd only start worrying about your orientation if men don't do anything for you anymore or you start wanting to really sleep with women in reality (instead of fantasy).

Hope that helps!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

no, they are just fantasies. For me, it takes falling in love with a woman and wanting to have relationships to being bi. But, we all have our differences of opinions don't we? And rightfully so!

But, there is something called the Kinsey Scale or McKinsey Scale or whatever it's called. If you read the book or check out some websites it should help you better understand. But, I think that idea is kind of balogna too.

Answer 4

if u were gay or bi its nothing to be ashamed of. but you know what, penises are pretty ugly so that might be why u like to watch women more. and women do alot more to make themselves beautiful because of this sexist society we have higher standards than men so they dont try as hard as women

Answer 5

y wood u be worried if ur a lesbian?

anyway
u mite be bisexual
i was bisexual b4 i was lesbian
then i started hating men

Answer 6

I started out that way and then I started thinking about some of my friends that way. I'm still half-straight, though, if that calms ya down. ;)

Answer 7

Nope I wouldn't worry! You are just curious about the "other side"!

Answer 8

It sounds like you're bicurious, but I think you need to examine your desires more to figure out your sexuality.

Answer 9

I really think you're bisexual, and it's nothing to be worried about. You don't have to act on it if you don't wish. just be yourself.

Answer 10

nope ...dont worry..i do the same,,and i think ALOT of girls do but dont admit it either!!

hit me up if u wanna chat sometime!