This may be gross but i need to ask ?

Question

me and my guy there's times when we will have sex and the condom breaks alot and he says he doesn't notice when this happens. we did it a week ago and this week....... this is kinda gross but i went to the bathroom and when i went something was in my underwear and it look like it could have been the tip of a condom....my guy didn't tell me it broke.....should i confront him about this?..do guys know when it breaks? ......no rude comments

Answer 1

Of course many guys will claim that they cannot tell, because they don't want to stop, especially if it does feel better and the girl is okay cuz they are using a condom and won't think there'll be a problem.
I've been with a man and AS SOON as the condom broke, not only did he feel it break, but so did I.
If this is happening alot with the two of you, it would seem like he is using the condom improperly so that it WILL break and he can have the better sensation without alerting you.

My advice is to learn to put the condom on yourself, try a larger size, use the lube and it should not be a problem again. And if it trully is an accident than your man should NOT have a problem with you taking control of the condom process, in fact, most men LOVE for us to put it on for them.
If he does have a problem and you have a problem dropping his sleazy ***, than start using the female condom!

Good Luck.

Answer 2

They know. In the three times me and my ex actually used a condom, it broke once and he knew immediately. There isn't just a hole in it when it breaks, the friction will push the whole thing to the base of his penis leaving all the bad things that there may be exposed and ready for transmission. It kinda scares me for you knowing that it's breaking and he's not stopping. Something's fishy here, and I'm pretty sure it ain't you.

He prolly doesn't care what happens. If you get pregnant he can deny it and call the cops if you "harass" him for a paternity test. If he calls first, you get jack. Or maybe he wants something that'll bind you to him forever. Sounds like a sweet thought, but there's nothing sweet about how they change after even a scare.

Talk to him about it and go out and buy condoms you know are new and can hold up to even the roughest hankypanky. I hear good things about Trojan, but I've only done the condom thing three times and don't know any of the brands or even if the first time one was used for sure. I was too drunk, in too much pain, and too shocked about what was going on. I'd been a virgin and this guy was 10years older than me, and the way I remember it was that I was saying no the whole time. Again with the drunkness, the other two guys there vouch for the guy simply because I was compliant enough not to scream.

Answer 3

He may or may not know in the heat of the moment. But he would undoubtedly have figured it out when he removed the condom.

If it happens "a lot", I suspect he's putting the condom on incorrectly, the condom is old and/or has insufficient lubricant. Or are you using an oil-based lubricant (vaseline, baby oil, lotion)??!?!?! This will breakdown and weaken the latex in condoms. ONLY use water-based lubricants (like KY) - not only do the protect the condom, but they are much healthier for a women's sensitive tissue.

If the condom has a reservoir tip (or even if it doesn't), you need to pinch the tip to keep air bubbles out while sliding the condom down the shaft of the penis. I suspect he may be putting the condom on tightly at the tip, without reservoir space to catch the semen. Here's the correct method:

http://www.ripnroll.com/proper.htm

Answer 4

Oh honey.. I have had the same thing happen to me.
what matters is that he has failed to tell you that the condom has broken, he should be telling youy this for sure! He may not have noticed the break when it happened but HEY he would have when he took it off!
To help prevent the condom breaking you need to use lubricant also...Condoms and lube hand in hand baby. Also I would suggest trying another brand if this is happening that often.

I understand that you are probably a beautiful shy woman but you need to be very sure about yourself when it comes to the protection of your health and lifestyle.

Answer 5

If your condoms break a lot you need to do something different, maybe you're using them improperly or using the wrong kind. You should at least be using a second form of birth control.

You should absolutely confront him about the situation. Just explain how you're worried about your condoms breaking and ask him if he can tell and tell him that you really don't want them breaking anymore! Maybe he doesn't notice, but you both need to work together to get them to stop breaking..

Answer 6

I'm not totally sure if a guy could tell if the condom breaks or not but try having him buy larger condoms or personal lubricant. Sorry I didn't really answer your question but I hope that I helped at least.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I would confront your boyfriend about this problem. You say that the condom breaks "a lot"... maybe the two of you should reconsider the size he's been wearing. As for him knowing if it breaks or not, I imagine he might be able to feel *something* but I'm not sure. Just have a nice little chitchat with him about everything. I'm sure he'll understand where you're coming from.

Answer 9

He certainly knows that it broke when he's finished and withdraws. Yes, he should tell you. And yes, he should help you to find RU486 in order to prevent a possible pregnancy.

Think of it this way. If he's not telling you, what does it say about how he feels about you? What does it say about how much he really cares about you? Do you really want to stay with someone who doesn't care? Do you really feel that you can allow anyone to treat you that way?

Condoms do break at times, but when they do, it's generally because the couple hasn't used enough lube. So, if you don't dump this piece of #)#*)*$, the two of you need to do some research and mend your ways on that one.

Answer 10

I have wonder this too!!! Well 2 times the condom completely came off and he didnt' say anything. i didn't want to confront him and be like Hey why the heck didn't you tell me..cos I don't know if he really knew..so i'm gonna watch this ?