i am trying my best to see men and women as both human beings, but i grew up in a home were men were not to cry and women didnt have to go to school if they wanted to stay home and clean, i grew up in a family were men treated women like sh*t, and then i am starting to see a lot of sexism out there in the world and just so much harm done to women and the constant struggle just to be treatedd fairly, PLease tell me if the majority of men are so bad........, i see few individuals guys that are actually nice and a few that fake it, and then a lot that are just heartless. i dont want to think that all men are evil and i cant trust them, that thinking just isnt right, but damn it is just so hard to see....... i feel like a victim to these sexist people,what to do????? i fear all men secreatly are sexist, subconciosly or whatever, they just are, i dont want to have my son and think he is going to be a monster when he grows up because he will be a "man", HELP!!
2007-02-16 13:13:43 · 5 answers · asked by beya 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
The variety of goodness in men is equal to that in women. I'm sorry that you've been exposed primarily to bad examples.
2007-02-17 05:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by chdoctor 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to repair and improve yourself and become intimately aware of the signs of men that are not right for you (or not right for anyone healthy). If you're not having sex and/or living together (married), there's not as much at stake. Signs might be heavy drinking, a sloppy life, nastiness to servers/retail workers, looking at other women as objects when they walk by, secrets, and poor communication skills. You can also look to his family & friends to make a pretty educated guess as to his character. I would say that the percentage of unsuitable/damaged people is about the same across genders at about 70%. Now, within that remaining 30% one has to then find someone who is a romantic fit and a friend, which is pretty tough. It's difficult, but keep trying, and go slow.
2007-02-19 06:44:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women love bad boys then complain about it. Are the majority of women bad? No. And neither are the majority of men. I too see a lot of women being sexist aginst men. Maybe we only see what we want to see. Eh little girl?
2007-02-17 11:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that a lot of this perception that men are "bad" has to do with the fact that in most cultures throughout the ages men have been in the position of power or authority because of the basic biological differences in them. Men have been the hunters (providers of food and defense) while women have been the nurturers because of their child-bearing status.Power and authority aren't "bad" but easily abused. It boils down to biology, primarily, and socialization of the culture (secondary).Have you ever noticed that once women have passed menopause (and are NOT on hormone-replacement) they become less passive and as men age and lose some of their testosterone they become less aggressive?
2007-02-17 16:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since you seem to be in the United States, my advice to you is move to the coasts. I'm in Florida (Naples specifically) and trust me, there is NO problem of that here. Really, the coasts are about as liberal as you can get. California, Florida, New York, take your pick. I'd suggest somewhere warm though... seems to be a better environment.
There are LOTS of great guys out there, and more than that, LOTS of great communities. I agree that there are those men out there that are total assholes, which is really unfortunate. Maybe pick out one of those nice guys...
2007-02-17 10:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋