Why would someone consistently avoid having a social life -- but then be depressed that they do not have one? What is the psychological reasoning behind that? real answers, please. ;-)
2007-02-16 13:05:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Alot of people might want a social life, but lack the skills to have one. So without those skills they get depressed. It's a vicious cycle.
2007-02-16 13:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by Teslajuliet 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There could be several, but the most common would probably be maintenance. Some people feel like maintaining relationships is sometimes just too much work.
Especially if the people that you tend to meet are annoying or not as smart as you. Or maybe they just like things you don't like. These people are more than capable of being social, but they are easily annoyed by the people that they meet.
Another reason could be fear of fitting in.
2007-02-16 21:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by John P 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am in that position right now. I find it to be a form of protection.
i have lost so many friends, that I fear getting close to anyone else. Although, when I have my times when I am in pain, I would like to have some one that I can trust and confide in. But as I have said, I fear that person to come into my life. You can't have a friend on a as needed basis. friends are full-time, not part time. And, as selfish as this may sound, i would be only be taking, not giving. And that is not fair to the other person.
2007-02-16 21:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by izzitonme 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
okay this is a real answer, promise. lol
i sort of have that problem myself. its mainly because i feel wierd around people, ie. i analyze everything i do, i dont know how to act. so a lot of the time i try to avoid anything too social. but then when im sitting home on the weekend, i just feel like a loser- like i have no friends and no life. its completely contradictory, i understand that. but i believe i have some kind of social disease.
2007-02-16 21:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah
I m kind of like that
I don't like people
I prefr to be on my own and concentrate on my education
But some times I do feel alone
so I have friends but not people I talk with everyday one the phone
I used to have that before I moved to another country
but I only had 2 intimate friends
now I have like 1/2 a best friend
2007-02-16 21:09:49 · answer #5 · answered by KT 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm not really sure why people including myself are like that. Maybe it is just a result of a lifetime of 'friends' doing the wrong thing and the realisation that comes from that-that you can't trust anyone and not to let people 'in'. But it is still just as hard to deal and live with.
2007-02-16 21:12:56 · answer #6 · answered by rwcssndr 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, someone could be scared about meeting people for the first time since he/she doesn't have a soial life as of yet so idn't comfortable in company
i think strating out slow, with a few people doing an activity (like one of those township classes) will be good, so you can get comfortable around people without being forced to talk
2007-02-16 21:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps it is lack of self-esteem. They may also have an anxiety disorder. I would suggest this person talk to their doctor to be referred for counselling.
PS. It is easier to complain about something than to take action to change. Change takes courage and support.
2007-02-16 21:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
They may have a social phobia. They may feel inadequate, socially, some how less than, which also would be a self-esteem issues too.
2007-02-16 21:15:17 · answer #9 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This could be many reasons, maybe one is that they are affraid of rejection, maybe if they get to close to people they get scared that others will hurt them by not accepting them. This fear can be parralising if they dwell on it to much.
2007-02-16 21:10:23 · answer #10 · answered by emesumau 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋