My younger cousin just had a baby girl Monday. She's pretty young so I've been trying to help her out. I offer to help her quite a bit. I told her I'd babysit if she needed to get out or even just come to her mom's to keep an eye on the baby so she can get some sleep. In a way I have been there so I can relate somewhat. She's single so I know that makes it much harder on her. I want to help her out in any way I can, yet I don't want to seem pushy about it. All I say is that she can call me anytime if she needs help and I call her to see how she's doing. Does this seem pushy?
2007-02-16 12:44:24 · 13 answers · asked by ~*~They call me Mom~*~ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
No, it seems really nice and not enough people make such an effort to help others. Give her time, most new mothers are a little frightened about leaving their babies...when they become more accustomed to their role and their relationship with their baby...she'll be taking you up on that offer. Every once in a while just call her and ask her how she's doing...you'll know when to ask again
2007-02-16 12:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're being too pushy at all. Being a young single parent is the hardest thing in the world at times. I think she will really appreciate all that you do for her.
What you should look out for, is her taking an advantage of all of that help you offer her. I'm not saying she will, but she may become dependant on you if it gets out of hand. She might start calling you up all the time and ask you to watch the baby while she goes out and has fun.. which is good for single moms every so often, but it might become something she does ALOT. So just be careful.... - And I'm not saying your cousin is like that, she probably isn't, I don't know her, but I've seen it happen before with young single mothers taking too much advantage of people who offer more than enough help to them.
2007-02-16 12:54:11 · answer #2 · answered by Alene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No thats not being pushy. Its letting your cousin know that you care and your there for her and her baby if she needs you. I've been there. Now my daughter is there. I tell my daughter the same stuff you tell your cousin. But just let your cousin know that your not being pushy. You just want to help. I've also, learnt to take a step back and let my daughter tell me how she feel's about me wanting to do so much for her and her 2yr. old daughter and her 6 month old son.
2007-02-16 14:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by tammy a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that doesn't seem pushy at all to me. I wish I had someone offering to help me like that when my girls where born. Sounds like she has a great cousin. One nice way to help would also to be to prepare some casseroles or something for her. Something she could just pop in the oven when she's hungry.
2007-02-16 18:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by mommyof2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know you're available for her, if she needs you. If she doesn't ever call, then she may be just trying to prove she can do it on her own. Give her a call, drop in, and while you're there, put in a load of laundry for her... or drop by with lunch or dinner (and plenty for leftovers for her to keep)... Little things like that will make ALL the difference in the world for her.. and will let her know you REALLY mean to help her with the mundane tasks that take up all her time an energy.
2007-02-16 15:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by Amy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think you're doing great and she is very lucky to have you as a cousin. Even if she doesn't use your help, I'm sure it helps just knowing how much you are willing to do for her. I think the best thing for you to be sure is to be upfront and say to her something like "Hey I've been there and I know how annoying people can get when you first have your baby without even realizing it, and if I do that to you please tell me and and I'll stop."
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2016-09-29 05:25:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not too pushy to offer help, and let her know that it's really no trouble at all if she wants you to help anytime.
What IS pushy is helping without being asked or after they've given you hints to back off.
2007-02-16 12:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by tasha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been there myself too. I don't think its too pushy. But maybe naturally with every doting mother, this is the time for bonding with the baby and your help may be more appreciated later rather than now. But as long as she knows you will always be there for her then you are a supportive friend.
Keep it up.
2007-02-16 12:54:05 · answer #9 · answered by esai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-02-16 18:56:22 · answer #10 · answered by daryavaush 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋