Cause seems that I`m a dirty person ,I have been cheated and the kid I toutgh was mine isn`t but some christian girls wont give me the chance do you think that is right ?
2007-02-16 12:27:40 · 16 answers · asked by sinner so what ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am christian girl and here is what I think:
I make mistakes and God forgives me for everything I do. I don't think there are any sins that are "worse" than others. I think a true christian would have to forgiving heart of God and give you a chance. Unless of course they are perfect, then they can go ahead and cast the stone, but they aren't so they should give you a chance I would!
2007-02-16 12:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by I'm here for now 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's all good then. If your conscious is clear, then I wouldn't worry about anything or anyone else. I was raised as a member of the J-Dub Club and that kinda thing is frowned upon in that religion, too. So I was immediately "out casted" when I got pregnant at an early age and outta wedlock. But I went on with my life, accepted the consequences of my decisions and life is just fine with me. I didn't have 2 seek approval of a cloud-dwelling being or anyone else to find the "acceptance' that I needed and I was the only one who had to be "accepting" to what I had/have done in my life. Hopefully, you'll be able to come to terms with what's been done, what's being done, and what needs to be done. Tough thing about the kid, though! tsk*tsk* tsk* Good luck 2 you!!
2007-02-16 13:08:56 · answer #2 · answered by baybeegrl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not against marrying a christian who isn't a virgin. You need to accept and forgive yourself for what you've done- you can't change whats already happened, so there's no point in beating yourself up about it. Also, if a girl is really that against marrying you simply because you had sex before marriage, then clearly she isn't the right girl for you- good luck!! I hope that you can forgive yourself :)
2007-02-16 12:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by jemm4president 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personaly if it was up to me I would tell you that whatever hapened in the past is in the past, you can't change it and since you have repented and asked God's forgivness who am I to say anything...If I were to love you to the point of considering marraige that wouldn't be a problem because I know it was before we met and I would accept it (especialy if there was a child involved I would welcome that child as if it was mine)...Hope this has helped you, God bless (I am a Christian too)
2007-02-16 12:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by Jane_Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn! I am sorry about the child you thought was yours but isn't. That is pretty messed up. But maybe it is for the best. You can now start fresh!
I don't think God feels that you are a bad person. God looks at the "overall you". And if you are a good person, then that is all that counts.
And about girls, the right one will come along. We shall remain patient. God has a plan for all of us.
2007-02-16 12:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by sweetwat3rmelon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No stop worrying you married the lady didn't you! If you went into a shop to buy a suit would you buy it without trying it on? No you wouldn't so what is wrong with having sex before marriage. When we pass away God forgives us our sins. There are far worse things you could have done.
2007-02-16 12:33:42 · answer #6 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People make mistakes! Don't beat yourself up over it. The good thing is that you repented and asked God for forgiveness. If a woamn doesn't want to be with you just because you had a slip up, then that just means she's not the one for you. God has a woman for you, so don't worry.
2007-02-16 12:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by The QUEEN of EVERYTHING! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have sincerely asked God for forgiveness there's nothing more you can do. When you connect with the girl that the Lord has chosen for you there will be no condemnation so please don't become frustrated because of the behavior of a few people.
Get on with your life and leave the past behind.
2007-02-16 12:35:01 · answer #8 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's right.
It's not about the fact that you made a mistake, but about sex being an integral part of marriage.
When you and your wife have sex, you will inevitably compare her to your past partners.
Even though we repent, our punishments do not end. You will always have to deal with what you did. I'm not saying you're a bad person, or don't truly regret what you did. But it would be unfair for a girl who has saved herself to have to go through this.
In my case, I'm saving myself for marriage and would be hesitant to date a girl who wasn't a virgin. I'm not saying I wouldn't go out with her, but I'd be really careful, and think hard about it.
2007-02-16 12:45:38 · answer #9 · answered by A L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to lighten up on yourself. Everybody needs a fresh start once in a while. And the false alarm you experienced isn't something I would necessarily discuss on a first date anyway! Learn from the mistake you think you made, move forward, and be happy!
2007-02-16 12:35:02 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋