is it wrong to keep a secret that your bi sexual, from your husband?

Question

i never told my husband that i am bi-sexual. I love my husband and would never do anything to hurt him. when i married him it was for life as far as i am concerned. but should I of told him that I am bi-sexual? I only want him and to be with him. don't want anyone else. he is the one!

Answer 1

There is a saying...If it isn't broken then don't try and fix it...If your intention is just to be with him and him alone I don't think that he needs to know. There are lots of times in a relationship where the absolute truth is not always a good idea. Only you know your husband well enough to know how he would receive this kind of news. I think everybody has a right to a past and that past is a private domain, unless it definitely affects your present relationship. It's not as though you were an axe murderer or something. Anyway why are you feeling so guilty, perhaps your hubby is not all that you expected and you still feel like exploring other avenues for your sexual gratification??

Answer 2

So long as youre faithfull, why bother ?

There's a chance he'll get angry, there's a chance he'll think your looking for a way out of the relationship, there's a chance he'll think it means you want to romp with another girl for / with him.... All will lead to an unhappy you and an unhappy him.

Why risk it ?

Does he need to know ? In my view, not telling someone something is NOT lieing it's just not saying something and if, like in this case, it could hurt them or confuse them.... Then no, don't tell them unless thay ask, or unless it becomes absoloutley nessicary.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

I think that there are alot more women like yourself out there. I know that I have bisexual urges and all that. But as far as telling your husband, it really depends. In a relationship honesty is a huge part, but if he would freak out and want a divorce I would just keep it to myself. But if you think that he would be cool with it and maybe help you work through it then I would tell him. So I guess just step back and ask yourself how would he react. Best of luck!! :)

Answer 5

The question occurs to me...what is the point of telling him?...what would you gain from doing so?

If it is a question of not answering a question you have never been asked...then let it go. There is no purpose served to raise doubts or insecurities that go nowhere but to the vulnerable heart!

If he were to ask a question that relates to this...how difficult is it to answer the question but not reveal anything else?

I think you can manage this.

The only other thing that occurs is...do you suffer some sort of guilt over this?...If you do...sorry to be so simplistic....but don't!!!!

Answer 6

You say he is the one for you. But you are asking us on here!
Are you sure he is all you want?
In a loving relationship you should not be worried about being totally honest.
If you feel you can hide your feelings for other women then fine: but i think you should have shared your feelings with him.
My man knows I am bi-sexual, told him from the start. I am really happy being with him: but it adds something to our sex life when we talk fantasies.
Just be truthful, you don't want a woman. Be honest with the man. its obviously bothering you now.

Answer 7

Only you know how he will react if you tell him but I think honesty & openness are the best basis for a good relationship-if you want to be with him and only him for good then he has nothing to worry about.If you were completely hetrosexual you would still occasionally look at an attractive man without wanting to run off with him,in your situation you'll also occasionally look at attractive women.

Answer 8

it would be nice if he knew, but it depends on what kind of person he is and how u tell him. u have to pick the perfect time to tell him. if u need help, u can go to a social advisor or a talk show host, like dr phil, and ask for advice there. it will take a lot of courage and determination to tell him, so u have to know that u r ready and he is ready. it will also help the situation if ur marriage is unquestionable. i would say, dont tell him unless u r sure that ur marriage cant b broken by this.

go to drphil.com and ask for advise how to tell ur husband

Answer 9

I think you should still tell him even though you only want to be with him because you never know things may come up about it. Hopefully just positive, but it could potentially be negative. If you want a relationship with good communication than you should be honest. Thats the best way to go.

Answer 10

This needs carefull thought ,if he is the one why rock the boat now
you are lucky girl .I often suspected my wife was bi but never approached her on the matter ,we very happy after 18 years wed ,so enjoy all you can you sound level headed , you have my respect
for being courageous. Cheers