Just thought I'd open this up on a wider forum - if you were sexually assaulted (not raped), what would you do? Would you go to the cops, or just talk it out with a pastor or somebody and your friends? Would you try to work it out with the guy himself? What would you say to him?
Well, thanks for any input!
2007-02-16 11:44:25 · 9 answers · asked by Cedar 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Do not try to work it out with the guy yourself. If you (or someone you know) were sexually assaulted what is there to work out between to two of you. As a person who has treated sex offenders in a clinical setting, I can predict that the guy deny the action("I never touched you"), deny the impact ("your not hurt, no big deal), deny responsibility by blaming you or minimize his accountability by saying he was drunk, didn't mean it or can't remember what happened. If you know that you were rape and want to hold this person accountable and reduce the likelihood he does this again to you or another person I would go to the police. If you are struggling with this then I suggest that you contact your local women's advocacy or sexual assault clinic (Planned Parenthood or United Way can help you get in contact with one). Personally, I don't recommend going to clergy first. In my experience, they focus on forgiveness before sexual abuse survivors have understood why their anger is legitimate and what they can learn from it to keep themselves safer in the future.
Good luck.
2007-02-16 11:56:31 · answer #1 · answered by kvcar2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A sexual assault, just like a rape, is illegal and should be immediately reported to the police. Do not try to "work it out with the guy"--men who commit these types of acts will at the very least deny they committed the assault and at worst become violent when confronted with the accusation. If someone has sexually assaulted you, it is best to stay as far away from them as possible. Many sexual assault or rape victims have been attacked more than once by the same predator, so no one should willingly open themselves up to this horrible possibility.
If you are unsure about speaking to the police about the assault, find a local rape crisis center or mental health clinic and speak to a therapist about what happened. A qualified counselor will help you decide what steps you need to take next. There's absolutely nothing wrong with leaning on your friends, family, and spiritual leaders for support; however, it would be best to get advice from professional counselors trained to deal with these types of situations.
I hope this helps...
2007-02-16 12:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by Southern Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether it's physical or verbal it's still assault go to the cops and tell them what the deal is otherwise that douchebag is gonna keep doin it and it might lead up to a rape,maybe not yours but another female maybe one of your friends go to the cops if you know the person doin this it'll make it that much easier for the police to apprehend.Sometimes they might just let the guy go because he didn 't attack you so there is no physical evidence I would tell the guy to cut the bullsht or you'll have him put in jail I would hat to be lookin over my shoulder everytime I walked out of the house so do the right thing and tell the cops ok females shouldnt have to put up with that kind of **** from any guy ok so be careful and take care sweety I sure would hate to hear about how a young lady got raped on the 6:00 oclock news
2007-02-16 12:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by ruben_flores_2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably meant this just for women, but it can happen to guys as well. It did happen to me when I was younger, but I was so naive and stupid, I didn't realize what was going on, I was just freaked out. I didn't do anything. I think later on I was planning on taking my own revenge. But it has been told to me that the guy got on drugs and eventually died in a car accident related to that.
These days if that happened to me, I'd like to think I'd kick butt. But being a realist, I'd probably just do the best I could to defend myself, and after that, go to the police. If you need help, please let someone know. There is no use going thru this alone. There ARE people that want to help.
2007-02-16 11:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you, dear? Sexual assault involves any inappropriate touching/fondling either under age or without your consent. The proper authorities need to be alerted, the victim needs to feel safe! There are sexual assault counselors available in all police depts., call them now!
2007-02-16 12:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the distinction. Do you mean if someone pinched you on your butt? Or attempted to force you without success?
If it qualifies as attempted rape it should be reported to the police. If you said stop and it stopped that is up for more consideration.
2007-02-16 11:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by Ron H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you belive you were sexually assulted i would go to the police thats a pretty serious thing to deal with
2007-02-16 11:51:18 · answer #7 · answered by ryan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the authorities(police) sexual predators will keep doing what they do, put a stop to it,the law's on your side.
2007-02-16 11:48:41 · answer #8 · answered by i tell it like it is 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get justice. i didnt and cant now... go to the police. it will haunt you later in life i promise.
2007-02-16 12:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by dazed and confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋