What should I do?

Question

I was once in love with my best friend, and she is married with children, we also messed around quite a bit. She now says she is not attracted to females, but no too long ago we messed around and a little after that she texted me kind of flirting with me, but then stopped. I have a feeling that NOW she is not talking to me b/c she may have feelings for me, but uses excuses not to talk to me instead of saying... Hey I have feelings for you and it's too hard to be your friend. She also told me not too long ago she thinks has multiple personalities and I think it's true, so how do I know she's just not going through that right now? I am so confused, and hurt, b/c she is my best friend, and I want to be friends with her, I miss her. I don't know what to do. She also "accidently" texted me last night and this morning, but I know she just wanted me to write back. She look at my myspace too, so what should I do about her? I still want to be her best friend, she knows that too. Help???

Answer 1

it may have to do with "guilt" you mentioned she is married, with children, so i am assuming she married a man, when a marriage vow is broken ie:cheating weather it another woman or man, it still is cheating and a broken vow of trust.
it could be something in her sub consious that is making her react this way, she could be also confused about the way she feels and could be torn apart mentaly by what society thinks and possiable the impact of how her children and husband may react, if she is caught having this affair, it is possiable she could be falling in love with you, i suggest meeting for coffee in a public place but not to public where you cant talk freely , possiable trying to communicate with her and let her know how you feel, and to ask how she really feels, maybe she wants your friendship and nothing more, but with the thoughts of you two together maybe a weakness or curiousity for her that she may or maynot have the strength to explore, and for fear of loosing your friendship, might not want to say anything...communication is what you both need right now, if you put it off to long it could have more damaging effect and more questions.....i wish you the best of luck

Answer 2

Ooh, sticky situation. If you are gay/bi/lesbian and she already knows it then the flirtatious texts could be a sign she does like you. If you do like her back, then just take it slow and smile around her, flirt back with the texts (but not too much!) and all. But if you feel no attraction to her, then wait until she's in one of those "gay (I know, not the best word to use...)" personalities you say she has, and start talking about her wonderful relationship with her husband and children! And how lucky she is to be settled down with her someone special. Hopefully it won't crush her or anything, maybe she'll try to start taking more time to think of her husband and kids and end up thinking about them in between her different "personalities" and soon she will end up not liking you. If that doesn't work, tell her when she is in her "serious" personality about how you've noticed she has been on and off flirting with you and you think she might like you. Doing it in a calm and nice tone, she will probably tell the truth. You can tell her it's okay and natural to feel different attractions to people, even friends, but that she is already married and you think she is lucky to have her husband and children.

Answer 3

if she is married, then you shouldn't allow her to mess around with you. that is cheating. she needs to focus on her marriage problems.. if she is not bi, but actually lesbian, then she needs to divorce.. focus on friendship and not sexual flings.. don't do any messing around until your can repair your friendship.. best friends who also sleep together usually struggle with the friendship side.. have a long talk with her and help her come to terms with what she really wants in life.. assure her that you are there as a friend no matter what, but that you would be interested in more should she divorce. .but don't settle to be a 3rd wheel, you will only end up hurting yourself emotionally.

Answer 4

you should stop thinking about your best friend because she've been married and by the way you are a women and so is she and it is not natural that women & women live together so let she be happy with her life and continue with your own life maybe someday you'll find your true love and not a woman.......

Answer 5

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Answer 6

You need to listen to Usher's song and LET IT BURN!!!