When you try to listen but the other person listens as well, and in the end neither of you say anything?

Question

You listen so much to each other that neither says anything. What do you do then? Do we need do both to really get close or do we take the role of listener or talker?

This is when you are both trying to do the right thing lol because you both expect that that's what you should do. And try so hard that nothing gets said because you spend to much time attempting to LISTEN and neither party give anything of themselves back.

Answer 1

You can't listen unless there's something to hear. What's being done here is not listening, it's silence. Clearly, from what you're saying, it's an awkward silence as well.

I would question whether the issue really is that you are both bending over backwards to be nice, respectful, good company etc to each other. The problem might be that you just don't have anything in common and have nothing to say to each other. Maybe even the other person doesn't like you much and is hoping that you will take the hint.

I assume that you are one of the two people and you are talking about a specific relationship. I would advise trying to get to know the person and at the same time letting him or her get to know you. And you can only do this by opening up a little yourself and seeing what you get back. Talk a little about something that interests you, and see what their response is. Do they care? Do they ask questions? Why not ask them a question about something that you think might interest them? If they're not interested in having a conversation with you about anything, it might be time to move on.

If all else fails, forget just spending time together as an activity in itself and suggest to the other person that you both go and do something together - a class, join the gym, play tennis, go bowling or to the cinema. That way at least you'll have something to discuss to break the ice, and if they don't want to spend time with you then they will have to come out and say so (and then at least you know).

Answer 2

Asking questions is the best way to get, conversation going, ask them about themselves, people can always talk about themselves, ask them what their secret dream is, what they would do for a job if they could do anything in the world with no restrictions. If it's more about trying to sort out a problem then use a set of keys, whoever is holding the keys has to talk while the other one listens and when they have finished they have to hand over the keys and can't speak until the other one has finished, it's a good tip too if the problem is the other way around and you feel like you don't get heard

Answer 3

Kinda like your "question"?
Sorry, but it makes no sense to me, and if you speak the same way you write, you have real communication problems.
Maybe you can post again, and try to be more concise.
Good Luck.

Answer 4

i think whoever has something to say can break the silence. try to think of subjects both you and the person might agree on and when an awkward silence comes up again, bring it up.

Answer 5

It is important to talk in a converstaion. No one likes to talk to themselves. Anyway, it is nice to be listened to as well as listen to someone else.

Answer 6

thats true but words arent important its the meaning after dont you feel better and closer even though you all have siad alot but at the same time siad nothing that u guys didnt already know

Answer 7

you really need to be with someone you can talk to and listen to. that seems to work best.

Answer 8

Are you talking about and man and a women. If so, wait for the wink and then you know...

Answer 9

That's called 'neither of you have anything to say.'

Answer 10

silence sometimes can tell more than 10000000 words believe me it's agood thing listening!