How can I alleviate how much I worry?

Question

I worry, worry, worry. I have a lot of anxiety in my life. I constantly worry that I'm going to lose my girlfriend even though there is no indication of that in our relationship. I worry that I'm going to end up like my mom who died miserable. I worry about my job, my finances, etc. I just don't know how to cope, and I really need help because I'm starting to have panic attacks. I try to think positive, but it doesn't work. Has anyone went through this type of problem and overcame it? I have an appointment with a therapist on February 23rd, and yesterday I went to the doctor and he prescribed wellbutrin for me. I haven't told anyone that I worry as much as I do because I'm afraid it's going to make me seem weak. I especially don't want to burden my gf with these problems because I want her to know that I'm capable of being a good father. I have no self confidence, and I've been through a lot of hardships throughout my life, especially in my childhood. Please HELP!

Answer 1

It may seem nonmanly, but try to open yourself up to the people you care about. It may be uncomfortable and you may feel weak, but if the people around you really care about you, then they will accept you for who you are. You also need to find a comfortable medium to channel you stressed, negitave enegry. Try an activity like yoga or boxing, some active pastime that intrests you, even if your not good at it. Also, set away some thime every day to purely devote to relaxation, just sit and breath, with every breath, breathing out negitave enegry. In the shower, take you time and let your stress wash down the drain, you day will be better. finally, learn to trust the people around you, if you let them, people can help you in more ways than you know.

Answer 2

Do Not Miss Your appt. on Feb. 23. Remember Me From Last Night? Wellbutrin works. So does Cymbalta. They won't make you weak, except from Relief!!! You are already on the road back by making that appointment!! I hope the doctor treats social anxieties. You can ask over the phone for free. Pep talks don't work, do they?

There are more and more men coming to their doctors for anxiety and phobias every single day!! Save yourself before you get where you Can't Even Leave Your House!!

Your GF is about to see what you are really like when you feel well. She will thank her lucky stars you got some relief!! And so will I. @8-) Bless You. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Yes, yes, yes, I agree with everyone. I am constantly told I worry too much, & have had my share of panic attacks (from the grocery store scene to the empty house & i think i heard a noise scene). i've even regretted life decisions originally made out of "fear". Counseling has definitely helped, given me coping tools for childhood history AND current situations. It's given me encouragement and self-understanding. You are not weak. Society convince you of that opinion because it's easier for society to deal with quiet folks than those that stand up and say, 'Hey! I feel this way and it needs to be dealt with!'. You are making a great step, so don't miss any appts to help yourself!!! Part of worry comes from fear...God has given you this promise: "For God has not given us a spirit of timidity [fear], but of power and love and discipline [sound mind, the ability to make a good decision]." 2Timothy1:7. I wrote that on a notecard, so even if i didn't remember to remind myself, it would be in my line of sight and i would be reminded anyway. Repeat them when you get worried. Eventually, you will hear those words when the fear begins to take over and instead you WILL believe THEM. You have the ability to condition your own thoghts, just as your body when working out or dieting.

Answer 4

My remedy for worry is

GRATITUDE.

Get into the habit of telling yourself "I will not worry now. I will write down 10 things about which I am grateful."

Then write down "I am thankful for:
my rooms, my car. . . . . the lady at the check out line who said "how are you? " and smiled,. . . the light changing to green so FAST in my lane, . . . the store where I buy my gas has a clean bathroom.. . ."

I mean, the list is endless. It has worked for me. Try it.

Answer 5

I overcame mine with the help of therapy and medication.

There's also:

meditation
exercise and fresh air
a healthy diet
self-help books (public library, many available)
working out

Your girlfriend needs to know you're doing something to help yourself. Sharing with her is part of being in a relationship.
prayer (if you're religious)

Answer 6

my boyhood was Chockfull of abuse. and i have been through therapy, have been through the self help and think positive books. have been through the group meetings. have been through the medication. in the final analysis it was God, now i have a 4yr old son and a beautiful wife blessed be the God from whom all blessings flow.