My boyfriend and I went on a vacation valentine’s day until today. I just recently got home. I am a very fun person who likes to have a GOOD TIME! I love water parks and my boyfriend decided since its winter to bring me to an indoor one. Well we got a suite at this place about 4 hours away. We ended up bringing my boyfriend, his brother, his brother’s friend, his younger brother, his younger brother’s friend and his younger sister. I didn’t have a problem with it considering we had our own “room” within the suite. Any who…we got there and all of a sudden these two other guys showed up. They were best friends with my boyfriend and lived in Ohio where my boyfriend used to live. When we first planned this trip 6 months ago it was supposed to be JUST US! Well we went to the water park and at first he was all about me. I enjoyed myself. He rode the tubes with me went on the slides with me was all cuddly and just perfect… then all of a sudden he made me ride some of the water rides by myself which I didn’t mind...much and was playing basketball for like 3 hours. I kept asking him if we could do something else and he told me that his friends wanted to play basketball. After that we went to this disgusting place to eat. I hate chicken but because his “friends” from Ohio wanted to have chicken it was where we went. I asked if the rest of them could go and him and I could have a nice romantic dinner instead just the two of us. He insisted we go get “bbq chicken from some bar.” I had a few drinks shot some pool and ate I’d say about 3 pieces of chicken AT THAT and to top it off I had to PAY FOR MY BEER! HE AND I ended up sleeping on the FLOOR because there weren’t enough beds. I was SO UPSET!! AND aside from that he took the sleeping bad and made me take a blanket from one of the beds and use it as a sleeping bag. I was FREEZING the whole night! AND REALLY UPSET THAT he let his friends stay with us CONSIDERING they lived only a half an hour away. Well the next day we were going to go to the water park but my boyfriend refused. We got there and he left me there by myself! I ended up having to ride water rides with a 16 year old mind you I’m 23!!! I called him NUMEROUS times to see where he was and he told me his was with the guys in the weight room. I went there and told him we needed to talk ALONE! Well we walked around for a little bit grabbed some pizza and then that was that. He THEN admitted to me that his MOTHER was paying for this vacation and it really wasn’t HIM who was paying for me it was a gift from his MOTHER because he got into Med. School! I was shocked and a little insulted. He then told me that he was sorry and hoped I wouldn’t get upset but he hadn’t gotten me anything for valentines day…”This was supposed to be the “gift” for me” but apparently he didn’t get anything for me. Later that night I saw him texting this girl. He was constantly texting her and I asked him who she was. He told me she was just a friend he met about a week ago through another friend. I found his phone and read his messages it seemed like harmless talking. I asked him if he had feelings for her and he said “yes” but it’s nothing more then feelings. I couldn’t understand what that meant and throughout the car ride home today I wouldn’t speak to him. We were supposed to see each other tonight but INSTEAD he made plans with this guy he’s friends with and hasn’t talked to me since and this was about 3 hours ago! Tomorrow he is having a poker game and asked me if I could “stay home” because it’s just for the guys. Would you dump someone if they treated you this way? WHAT SHOULD I DO?? I’M SO UPSET!!! I don’t know what to think! This was supposed to be romantic and great vacation….what should I do??
2007-02-16 10:28:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounded like he was just using you so he could be with your friends, and you have the right to be upset because he never spent any time with you on valentines day, and yes, he should have been with you and not with his so-called-friends-of-his. If I was dating you, I would've spent my time on you, and not worrying about my friends since I could spend my time with my friends at anytime, but I only would have so much time with you on valentines day, and especially, valentines day only happens one day a year and your boyfriend should have thought about that too.
If I was you, I would either dump him or ask him what would be more important - you or his friends. If he chooses his friends over you, dump him there and dump no matter what it takes. Listen to your heart, and go for it since you know what you have to do more than anyone here.
2007-02-16 14:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by Roxas of Organization 13 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW! That all got real screwed up, didn't it!?! A little time with 'his boys' would have been acceptable but not the majority of time. Any why did he bring a truckload of relatives to begin with? There are 2 (other) things that would have pis*ed me off - him making me sleep on the floor and texting a female. OH BOY! He has no respect for you...shame on him! You know what you need to do before he does it. We don't need to tell you. It sounds like he is going to leave you soon, anyway. It will be hard to leave him but at least you won't be dragged through his immaturity any longer. You are 23 years old. Don't you realize you deserve better? Believe me when I say being alone doesn't hurt as much as being a fool for some guy! Keep busy - don't call him - go out with your friends, go bowling, do anything even if you think it is dumb; just to fill the hours. Time will heal this wound. So much for a romantic Valentine Day. GET MAD AND DRY YOUR TEARS. Good luck.
2007-02-16 10:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by DPL06351 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now I know you are hurting,but project yourself a few years so you can get through this.
It seems he is dumping you so that he will not feel too bad a bout it. So You are going to have to act diva on him to give him something to think about the next time he thinks he can dis you like that.
Diva" OK, I understand-have fun" You never ever talk to him again unless he calls you and when he does, you act like nothing is wrong ,but you do be very nice and let him know you can see him because you have plans. You are so done with him. Cry and get it over with OK.
If he is prone to violence then you have to get professional help with this one-otherwise to left with this guy and let the other girl have him pk.
2007-02-16 10:40:00 · answer #3 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweety lemme tell ya, I didnt read the whole story and can already tell you he is very greedy. My wifes ex husband lives with us and he does the same thing. His girlfriend was here and he did it. You have to set him straight before you both make life plans or you'll be one miserable woman. You dont deserve that so you need to take care of the situation now. Not tomorrow, not in a half hour. If you wait, you will regret it for the rest of your life.. Trust me, I am in that boat as well.
2007-02-16 11:40:45 · answer #4 · answered by jason l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl com-on... he get another girl oready.. dump hes *** he doesn't deserve u.. he just waisting Ur time.. he Will dump u soon.. u get to do it first.. I'm sure hes waiting for it.. a man who tell u that he have felling about a other girl.. co-mom.. u know .. be in hes shoe and see u will do the something if u want to get ready of someone.. u can do better then that.. I m sure u deserve a real man.. not a man who's mama pay for him... girl I fell u.. I been there but guss what.. stand like real women and dump him.. for good.. email me if u need to talk peace
2007-02-16 10:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by I_belong_to_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I hand it to you for putting up with that **** for the whole trip. God knows if my boyfriend did that he'd be hitch hiking home, haha. But anyways I just have one question for you..Why are you settling for this guy? From what I gathered you're a fun girl who likes to go out and have fun! Why not ditch this loser and go find a guy who likes to do the same? I hope you realize that you can do so much better. SO MUCH BETTER. A guy like that isn't worth your time, and he most definately isn't worth your tears. So stop crying, go rent a season of sex and the city, invite over a couple friends..and have a girls night in. Then tomorrow - get all dolled up- pack all his **** in a box- and drop it off at his house on your way out with the girls. Then just forget about him. It';; be hard, and yeah you're not gonna want to do it. When you see him you're gonna THINK you want to be back with him. But you dont need him. You don't need ANY guy to make you happy. Make yourself happy!! And for the first couple weeks of (im not gonna lie) torture you're just gonna have to fake being "fine" and being "happy" until you don't have to fake it anymore. BUT TRUST ME it will be worth it!!!
2007-02-16 12:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by MeghanGene 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to ive got the power, or something like that. Go out with friends, some place makes u happy, dress up, wear make up and llisten to music that keeps you inspired.
text him saying a text is the best form of communication he deserves to broken up through. tell him to have a nice life and move on. your so much better than all THIS BS.
good luck!!!
2007-02-16 10:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by michelle y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he's not really that into you. Move on! He's already texting another girl and has "feelings" so stop replying to him, invest in someone who actually likes you and be happy
2016-05-22 09:51:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm thinking you really need to have a one-on-one conversation, and need to find out what those "feelings" really are, i know i would be very suspious and upset if someone was that inconsiderate with me at a time where a couple is supposed to enjoy themselves
2007-02-16 10:36:56 · answer #9 · answered by emma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm, doesnt sound good, ide say u needa have a chat with him, and tell him everything u just wrote, and tell him how u feel. then c wat he sais, if he kinda blows off the convo. then i think u might wanna think twice about him, but if he does care and stuff he should mabey try to make it up to u sum how, like taking u out on a date, u know...
2007-02-16 14:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋