ok. dis is how it goes. im 14 and im in the 9th grade. im still a virgin but lately alot of boys been asking me do i wanna have sex wit dem. i 've been gettin asked by boys that r in the 9th -11 grade. some of them r even in 12 grade. there was this 1 boy that asked me and i said yes. i been liking him since 7th grade. he was real nice about it though. he said 2 just tell him when im ready and we can do it. and dats all i've been thinking about lately.some times i think boys ask me just becuz of my body. im black and skinny but i have a ratherly large "bottom" i need some advice. i dont want nobody 2 sugar coat it, tell me the honest to God truth. i need it.
Thankx!
2007-02-16 10:13:15 · 35 answers · asked by ~*~MiZZ. 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Ok, no sugarcoating. Don't do it. Wait until you're at least a few years older and it's with someone you care deeply about.
2007-02-16 10:17:31 · answer #1 · answered by RadTech - BAS RT(R)(ARRT) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At your age, you should seriously concentrate on your future, and say a loud NO!!!! to sex. Premarital sex has been responsible for a lot of problems in this country, not to mention other places in the world. The biggest headache to come from all this is abortions. The second is a proliferation of increasingly younger mothers who still need mothering themselves.
You need to ask yourself these questions:
Do I have plans for my future? (doctor, lawyer....)
Do I have an idea of the life I want to live as an adult? (financially well off, and successful? A home? A car? A chauffeur?)
What will I do if I become pregnant?
What will my parent(s)/guardian say?
What will they do?
What will I do? Keep the baby?
How will I do it? Quit school & get a job?
What about STD's?
What if something really wrong occurs? (HIV)
My daughters are VERY well-developed to be 15 & 16. Boys talk to them too (I don't know if sex comes up, probably not, because they have 4 older brothers and a pretty big Dad who warns every young man that comes over not to try anything), but they have plans for their future: the 15 year old already has plans to be a cardiologist, she wanted to be one since she was 8; the 16 year old plans to be a marine biologist; each of their two older sisters are equally involved--one is getting ready to attend culinary school so she can open a restaurant, and the other is working on her degree in history (she plans to be an archeologist), she also graduated from one college last May, and will graduate again next year in the spring from the university she now attends.
I wanted to mention their goals to encourage you to think seriously about what you might give up if you say yes and the unexpected occurs.
Before you make a decision consider what it effect it would have on the life you live now, & on the rest of your life.
You have your life before you. You have to wait for so many less important events in your life, seriously think about waiting to do this.
A wise person (a minister, I think) said recently: "Don't make a permanent decison on a temporary situation" (I don't remember his or her name).
I hope you take your time and think this over, and I hope your answer is no.
And I hope this helps!
By the way, next to my girls, I look like their little sister! :)
2007-02-24 04:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by 1985 & going strong 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WAIT!!!!!! I was 15 the first time I had sex, It was with a guy about 2 years older than me. I can totally relate to the big bottom thing only mine is a huge top. Most guys see that at that age and are just looking to get some just because of that reason.
I thought that it was going to be this great thing and wonderfull and that he loved me and we would be together forever. He dumped me two days later. I would wait untill you are older. I am 20 now and just recently got married and I wish I would have waited. But I can't go back and change it. sooooo....If you decided that it is the right time for you then just be safe about it. Make him wear a condom and I would definatly look into reading information on STD's and pregnancy. Because those are very real things that could happen.
And just because all your friends are doing it does not mean that you have to too. Just really think about it before you decide if it is right for you or not.
2007-02-16 12:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by kgfhchick 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are WAY TOO YOUNG!
Sex is something very special that should only be between two people who are married, or at the very least in a serious, committed, relationship. Once you do it, that's it, you can't take it back. Most people I know who didn't wait until they were married regret their first times.
Most women don't realize this, but you give your heart away when you have sex, and you can't get it back.
I am 20 and a virgin, and I am very glad for it. Most of my friends who aren't virgins have a lot of emotional problems. In my mind, my body already belongs to my future husband, so having sex now would be like cheating on him. And don't play the "we're going to get married someday" game, because until you say "I do" there are no guarantees (actually, even after you say "I do" there are no guarantees, but if that was our attitude we'd never have sex).
Even if you don't decide to wait until you're married, wait until you're with someone who really loves, respects, and honors you.
2007-02-16 10:23:31 · answer #4 · answered by brainy_ostrich 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
these boys see you for one thing sex..if they were truely interested sex wouldn't be such an issue.sex w/ multiple partners can lead to std's,unwanted pregnancy and aids related diseases. most teen boys do not use protection and will tell all kinds of things to get you to do what they want then you won't hear from them again.be smart keep your virginity at least until it is with someone who will treasure the gift like a husband. remember once you give it up you can't take it back and it may lead to getting a reputation as easy ,a ho,nothing but a sex toy.they don't care about you no matter what they tell you 14 is way to young especially w/ guys who know better.good luck.btw.my daughter is 23 and still a virgin and she is currently a firefighter and still gets plenty of male attention.
2007-02-24 08:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by marie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, take it from me....Don't do it. Your not even going to like it the first time...and once its gone you'll never get it back. Wait. I'm not saying wait until your married, but wait until you understand your own body more...wait until you have a boyfriedn and you feel comfortable. If you have to ask strangers if you should have sex with various "boys" you shouldnt have sex. And you'll learn quickly, boys are jerks...and will say almost anything to get in your pants....did i say almost..i ment ANYTHING...sex is no game, there are so many std's ..just wait. And if you decide not to wait...because for some reason I get the feeling you are not going to....b/c any girl who knows whats best wouldnt even think twice about tellingthese boys to get lost...
2007-02-16 10:51:42 · answer #6 · answered by Tina B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, dont be forced into it, wait until the right guy comes. Try sex on a stuffed animal or a pillow first, see how u like it(remember sex is done naked or with a slit in ur underwear for his "part") remember to wear as much covering as u can if u want to have sex but since ur only 14 i dont suggest it. Plus if you do have sex PLEASE you AND him wear a condom. It will help everyone.
2007-02-20 08:30:42 · answer #7 · answered by blondebeauty97 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are too young to even be thinking about having sex. Are you willing to take on the responsibility to have and raise a baby? Is the guy ready to take on this responsibility? Are either of you ready to take the risk of getting an STD or AIDS, something that is incurable? What about your reputation going to crap? You need to think about these things before you consider having sex. Just because everyone else is doing it does not mean that you have to. 9 times out of 10 the only reason these guys are asking you is because they want to be "cool" and fit in with the older kids. Once they get it, they are gone and they don't care about you or whether you are pregnant. Do not do it and risk a life time of regret. This is something that you cannot undo once you do it. Its not worth it. Please take my advice and wait a few more years to make this decision. You have your whole life ahead of you and you shouldn't take any chances of screwing things up. Get an education, get a job, get married, have sex...that's the way it should be. Think about it first before you dive into something just because everyone else is doing it. Have more respect for yourself.
2007-02-16 13:31:35 · answer #8 · answered by Çåŗőľîņẫ§ħŷġĭ®ł 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
DON'T DO IT! Not only you are too young for sexual intercourse but also the longest you wait the better you will feel about yourself. starting sexual life too early in life can complicate a lot of things in your life. Even if you have protected sex there is the psychological side of the story.
Also, have in mind that boiz that ask you to have sex with you will loose their respect toward you after they get it from you. You will also be a subject of gossip that you became a sl*t and I am sure that is not something you would like to have.
Have self respect and self love. Don't let those horny teenage boiz to get in to you. Be blunt with those boiz... don't be afraid to tell them off. They will think that you are playing hard to get it but you simply will not only protect your reputation but also your own health and value.
You are young and there is plenty of time ahead of you. You will still have time to experience sex when you grow a little older.
Let me remind you that those boiz by asking you to have sex with them basically are very ignorant and they are not respecting you.
With love
Ivorybrother
2007-02-16 10:26:15 · answer #9 · answered by theivorybrother 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Don't DO IT!!!!! l lost my virginity when i was 14 to the guy i'd liked for a long time, very similar to your situation what a waste of my time and something so valuable!!! Wait until YOU REALLY want to, don't just do it because you can or it seems right now. If the time is right now waiting a little longer will hurt nothing!!!
2007-02-21 11:51:07 · answer #10 · answered by IzzyBelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are way to young to worry about this problem. Have fun while still young. and most boys are pigs any ways. Some are always trying to get in some girls pants. Be careful, sometimes that's all they want, once they get it, he'll ignore you, and tell other boys you put out. you've just become the school whore. Once in a while through, you do find that special guy that is Great!
2007-02-20 11:25:15 · answer #11 · answered by Peppermint Patti 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋