how long should I wait before making a move?
2007-02-16 09:48:22 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would say it is only respectful to wait til she has at least got the life insurance through
good luck x lol
2007-02-16 09:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by xXx Orange Breezer xXx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you looking to jump in the sack? Forget it then! How insensitive. However, assuming this is not the case, the 'move' will have to begin now and slowly you will find out if she is interested in you. Start by bringing her something to have on hand when she has guests - wine, cookies, etc. Send her a card and say as her neighbor she can call on you for anything she needs, like taking her kids to school, for instance. Then go slowly and ask her over to share a pizza - say you ordered a small and they delivered a large one that you can't eat alone. Keep finding things like that to do for her - take her garbage to the street on trash day. Keep making yourself around her. She will be coming after you before you know it. I hope you are a good listener and can deal with her talking about 'him' all the time. She will appreciate you letting her talk about him. Good luck!
2007-02-16 10:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by DPL06351 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start now, but you do it like this;
Get her a flower arrangement and a card that expresses your concern. This is what you write:
Hi ________
I am so sorry for your loss. I can not say that I know how you feel because no one can really say what is going on inside of another;however, know that I am concerned and hope that it is ok for me to check on you. the pain sill not go away but dissipates over time.
I know that there is nothing that I can say but do know that I am willing to be there just to listen if/when you need to talk, be there when you need to cry.
God be with you.
Concerned,
___________your name. Your number_____
Your e-mail__________
Now you buy those dollar cards and each week You drop her one that says just checking on you and sing your name.
After a month, you get a single flower and leave it with the card if you like. This should not be very expensive. If you just get the cards it is no more than five dollars a month after the initial card. You can even cut the expenses by just writing it in a personal note. I hope this helps.
2007-02-16 10:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by Arene 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok wait long enuff at least long enuff so she can get over the fact that she did loose her husband now if u lost ur wife if u had one now what do u think about that how long would u want someone to wait before ur over it like put ur self in her shoes its a tragic horrible loss so like wait at least 3-6 months cause it takes time to get over that and make a move like not real forward play a lil with her first get ur shoe in the door and know before asking
2007-02-16 09:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by jnco_jnco_jnco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't make the first move in a romantic way at least not now. Just be their for her...make her dinner, cut her lawn, listen to her, take her out to the movies..... But please don't make any moves other than in the friendship realm, you could ruin your chances with her forever if she is not ready. If doing things for her for at least 6 months hasn't showen any progress then slowly try to make a move...candlelight dinner, flowers, just more intimate things. Best of luck. Just remember, right now she needs a friend not a lover :)
2007-02-16 10:05:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be her friend and give her a shoulder to lean on . After she sees you are a kind man ask her to dinner or for ice cream or a movie . Then most likely she will let you know how she feels . Just be her shoulder for now and time will tell you when to make your move . GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
2007-02-16 09:54:12 · answer #6 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support her thru d whole funeral stuff and den afterwards wen every1 cums bk 4 refreshment @ d family home keep d drinks cumin were she's concerned by d end of d evenin wen every1's gon she'd b 2 pissed 2 resist ur charm no matter how ugly u r and viola she's urs bon apitite. lol.
2007-02-16 12:10:16 · answer #7 · answered by Alaoma O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If yr close to yr friend then maybe give her a call saying anytime you need a chat, im here for you, or maybe send a card saying this, this way the ball is in her court, and in her own time she will call you, x
2007-02-16 09:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll probably be needing a good seeing to so don't wait too long. What the world needs now is love, sweet love and all that.
Be smooth.
2007-02-16 09:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by Faceless 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a while because she could be very attached to hI'm still and man i would not even think of that question! how would you feel if you were a woman and just lost your husband how would you feel if a guy was trying to get up all on you?? well im just trying to say DON'T DO IT! just be friends! hold your self back
bye
2007-02-16 09:54:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋