that my griend might be gay or bi and i'm very much against that. i feel a little uncomfortable around her now (i know that's mean and i dont like feeling uncomfortable around her but i cant help it), so what should i do? she already knows i'm against it and many of our other friends are against it. (of course, even though i'm against it, i won't treat those people badly, they're still people.)
2007-02-16 09:31:21 · 14 answers · asked by laura03125 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
sry i spelled friend wrong
2007-02-16 09:31:56 · update #1
You are not good enough to be her friend so let her be.
2007-02-16 09:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Really it has nothing to do with her, but yourself. How you feel towards others on anything is a reflection of what goes on within yourself. It shows that you need to learn how to be at ease and comfortable with yourself regardless of who you are around with. This is letting your mind be in control, rather than being in control of your mind. You have nothing to be uncomfortable or afraid of. She was your friend to begin with before you knew this fact. Did you ever feel uncomfortable around her before she told you the news? She is still the same person before and after! What really changed was not her, it was your mind that changed. Now you're blaming her for it. As long as you continue to blame external events as the cause of your mental discomfort, you'll never find inner peace.
2007-02-17 21:35:19 · answer #2 · answered by Amma's Child 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you can choose to stay uncomfortable around a large minority of the world's population and have this irrational, uncontrollable uncomfortable feeling or you can stay her friend and work on getting over your uncomfortableness and grow as a person. It's entirely up to you.
2007-02-17 02:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never did understand homophobes...wtf? I'm gay, we're gay, people are gay and it doesn't just happen. She's probably been gay all along and you just didn't know it. And now that you believe that she'll be attempting to hit on you all the time, or that LGBT people are sexual predators, you aren't comfortable. I don't know where these notions keep coming from....but this is the prejudice I had to deal with when I came out, and for the sake of your lesbian acquaintence, let her before you screw up her head entirely.
2007-02-16 17:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by greenbuddha03 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's gonna take some time for you to get used to this new information. but you know what you're doing is wrong so that's the first step . the fact that she's gay or bi shouldn't change the way you feel about her as a friend and if it does you weren't her real friend from the beginning.
2007-02-16 17:44:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
So what if your griend is gay or bi. A true griend accepts the other person for who they are.
2007-02-17 01:28:14 · answer #6 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Indy T is right. Nothing changed in your friend. She knows how you feel toward lesbians so she will probably NEVER hit on you and has probably never has had any kind of thoughts like that toward you. There is no reason to feel uncomfortable it's just her sexual orientation.
2007-02-16 17:40:09 · answer #7 · answered by WALACPL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have friends who are evangelicals, hunters, far-right republicans, vegetarians, transvestites, Red Sox fans, and other things that I am not and never will be. They're still friends.
Have a chat. Ask questions. Learn and learn to respect each other as people. She was your friend before; why isn't she your friend now?
2007-02-16 17:45:18 · answer #8 · answered by Meg W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you believe homosexuality is wrong thats your opinion. but i think you should make sure shes gay or bi first .then once you figure out tell her u dont feel comfortable around her . So if your friendship with her is worth its either she changes her ways or you change your beliefs .(that is if u cant get along togeher but if none of u guys respect the others belief u most likely u wont)
2007-02-16 17:46:12 · answer #9 · answered by morgan 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
try to remember nothing has changed, he/she is still the same person she used to be, and is mostlikely not going to mollest you or anything.
wether you are against homosexuality isnt realy the issue, because it is not for you to choose how he/she leads her life, and whom he/she would love.
try to keep an open mind, moest people that are 'against' homosexuality are against because they lack the understanding of how it is.
it is not a choice, it is not a sin, and it doesnt threaten the very core of society, lighten up plz.
2007-02-16 17:36:59 · answer #10 · answered by mrzwink 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think you should stay away from her. She is better off without you in her life. She is going to have enough people in her life not wanting to accept her for who she is without her "so called" friends making her feel like crap. With friends like you, who needs enemies.
2007-02-16 17:38:01 · answer #11 · answered by The Original Sin 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋