i love my boyfriend but i want to explore ALL my options. Im not sure that i am but i think so. I love him so much. what should i do i dont want him to think he is less of a man. maybe im just bi. but should i break up wit him?
2007-02-16 09:18:23 · 13 answers · asked by florflor_valley 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Okay, make his fantasies come true.
Tell him you want a threesome with another girl. He'll be happy, and you can try all the things you want !
2007-02-16 09:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by eriayasha 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm. I want to say that you should just tell him and be honest, but there are so many unknown variables here: your age, whether you're still in high school, etc. In a perfect world, these things wouldn't matter at all, but unfortunately homosexuality and even bisexuality still have a bad reputation among some people, and can cause you some social discomfort if they don't understand. If you are prepared for the possibility of being harrassed or attacked--even by your boyfriend, if he's threatened by your decision--then yes, tell him how you feel and stand your ground, because you have NOTHING to be ashamed of. But this takes a lot of guts, and if you're not 100% sure, you may be setting yourself up for unnecessary trouble.
On the other hand, if you haven't been dating this guy too long or things aren't THAT serious, I would advise you to just say you want to date other people, and not specify which gender. After all, it's your business.
But if you think you want to stay with him, and think he'll understand, you could just tell him you're curious about dating girls. Most men, if they aren't being "dumped" or neglected, will be very supportive--and probably excited--by that. Good luck!
2007-02-16 09:30:28 · answer #2 · answered by nerdygrrl130 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only men would say "Have a threesome." Sexuality and exploring your options are not always about how men get their rocks off, so could we please take the fallacy that penetration is the end all, be all, out the picture for one moment. Hun, if you think you're a lesbian then you need to get out of your current relationship and explore all of your options. Because men seem to take this blow particularly hard, admitting they're not enough, and THEN admitting neither is their "pride and joy...." I suggest you just don't tell him. Tell him you have a life to live and you're sorry, but you need your time and space, and go out and enjoy your life!
2007-02-16 09:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by greenbuddha03 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you both are wrong for cheating, because in all honesty you cant love someone and cheat/hurt them that way. and you also cant be a lesbian if you keep having sex with him regardless of you having sex with her. lesbians only kiss and have sex with women, you are bi sexual and might prefer women more. and if she or you really wanted each other that bad you would have walked away from the relationships you two are in along time ago. if you dont want to be with him you should just simply tell him, you are wrong for dragging this out because now all you have done is gonna hurt him further because you made it from maybe a year and couple months into 2 years that he is expecting something that you dont want to give him. and all i can say is Karma.
2016-05-24 07:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course nor, if you love him that much, you should stay with him. If he really loved you back, he would trust you enough to let you explore the world.
2007-02-16 09:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing's for certain. You need to be honest with him, and them means letting him know that you're questioning your sexuality. It may be best to break it off if you think you are lesbian, just so that you aren't wasting his time.
2007-02-16 18:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a local chapter of Dykes on Bikes and take him out for a ride with your new sisters.
2007-02-16 09:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by MaryCheneysAccessory 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's just experimentation you want, then suggest a threesome. Seriously. I've had a few, and they were great, but it enabled her to know that she can be with a woman, but it isn't her preference.
2007-02-16 09:27:19 · answer #8 · answered by Year of the Monkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better tell him right away and give him the option of what to do.
2007-02-16 09:23:53 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Send him a text message.
2007-02-16 09:26:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋