I think that they will go to the point where they kill them self. they are 13 and14. it is crazy. They said that they might kill them self. and they said that i can't tell anyone are we will not be friends.
2007-02-16 09:18:17 · 10 answers · asked by sunshine 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
try to persuade them to seek help. if that fails, tell your mother and/or father. let them help you to help them:
1. call their parents
2. call your guidance counselor
3. arrange for an intervention
2007-02-20 06:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you their friend, or are you desperate for their friendship? You can't have both, sometimes. You may lose the friends, but you cannot be their friend and remain silent.
Tell their parents. Tell them immediately, through your parents.
Insist on their parents knowing, because what they are doing is an obsessive behavior that is a mental illness. Cutting can be very dangerous, and is a sign that your friends are feeling trapped and are unable to find the help they need to get out of whatever emotional trap they've gotten into.
You know what they feel, and what they are like. Are they happy, confident young women, or are they desperate and hiding it?
Help them. Be the friend they need. No matter what they say, or do, to blame you, call their parents to ask after theyir health, visit them in the hospital (even if they turn you away), but NEVER ASK FOR FORGIVENESS unless you want them to feel they are RIGHT to hurt themselves. Always know...
...you did the right thing. Love them. Help them.
2007-02-16 09:31:44 · answer #2 · answered by mckenziecalhoun 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked them why they're doing this? As a former cutter, I can tell you that it's usually done to release stress and/or to distract oneself from emotional pain. I can also tell you that most cutters are crying out for help and understanding.
A true friend would not put another in such a difficult position as your friends have put you. They are making you choose between a possible lifetime of guilt or being their friend. It's a cruel choice to force on anyone.
I think you should try to talk to them and find out what's bothering them. Encourage them to see the school counselor or an adult they trust. If they refuse, don't wait until they're bleeding to death. Tell someone. If they don't want to be your friends afterward, then it's obvious to me that they do not deserve you. When I was a cutter, my real friends were the ones who would snatch the knives from me, scream at me, smack my hands and tell me that if I EVER did that again, they were going to call up the psychiatrists themselves.
2007-02-16 09:29:20 · answer #3 · answered by Avie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to convince them to talk to a psychiatrist. There is no reason not to enjoy yourself while you're on the earth, so they shouldn't be doing something so harmful to their bodies. It's very important that you try to get them to talk to a psychiatrist or a conselor. Some medical doctors will mistreat people with self-inflicted wounds so tell them to be very careful. If you can't get them to talk to a psychiatrist, have them talk to you. Listen to their problems and see if you can try to help them and make them feel better. If you can't get them to feel better after talking to you, maybe suggest they try something creative to get the pain out. For examples, they could write stories or poetry or paint something.
Self-harm is usually caused by depression and is very common in females. It can lead to eating disorders and often suicide. However, creative expression and therapy can help.
Please do something for them. You're the one that has to do something now.
2007-02-16 09:31:42 · answer #4 · answered by Kharm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell their parents. If they hurt themselves badly or die, you will never get rid of the guilt. It is more important to tell than to keep a dangerous secret like that. Even if you lose their friendship, which I doubt, it is better than letting them lose their lives. Some day they will thank you for it. If you can't bring yourself to tell their parents, tell your parents and a counselor or the principal at school. You must!
2007-02-16 09:27:44 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents.
If you don't feel comfortable with that, then find an adult you are comfortable talking to and tell them. Cutting is a form of self-mutilation, and can be serious.
2007-02-16 09:23:37 · answer #6 · answered by eriayasha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents or a school counselor and ask that they respect your wishes about handling the matter gently.
2007-02-16 09:24:26 · answer #7 · answered by Julie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell a trusted adult soon. Your friends need serious help fast. Or Try calling a suicide help hotline.
2007-02-16 09:25:35 · answer #8 · answered by b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the police right now
2007-02-16 09:21:09 · answer #9 · answered by man of questions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dead people aren't very good friends.
2007-02-16 09:25:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋