I learned that as you grow up, your overall mood will be a major determining factor in your facial appearance & structure (as in your face will mold to fit your mood, because this is how people develop). Unfortunately I was very cute & good looking through elementary school, with a face that had a great personality to it. However, over the years, I've had miserable luck, mainly with sports, and a lot of other things, & now I'm not nearly as good looking & don't have the same facial expression & brightness that I use to have, & now Im only 18. If things had just gone a little better here & there it can really affect how you look & develop (this is a much proven & regarded theory of how people develop, as their physical features match their personality to help them survive, it's part of nature). Now I have a huge receding hairline & have gotten ugly. How can this not be depressing? (By the way I don't have less of a dynamic personality by choice, it's just because of diff stuff).
2007-02-16 09:09:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You really need to find some "life perspective".
2007-02-16 09:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by SouthernGrits 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If only you could have stayed three!
Get over yourself, learn to accept fate and its foibles, enjoy the life you have. Try, oh try, to remember that looks aren't everything, and that a good personality will still attract the chicks. Even with a huge receding hairline.
2007-02-16 17:21:07 · answer #2 · answered by lowflyer1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm....thats actually pretty interesting, ive never heard of that..however what i have heard is that whatever occurs to you in your first years in elementary creates you to be who you are now as an adult. i didnt really get that when i just heard about it, but when i began thinking of it, of all the things that happened to me in kindergarden have matched with how i am now.
like, ill give you an example. when i was in kindergarder my mom had bought me a box of crayola markers. you know how much of a big thing it means for little kids to get new markers, right? well i use to bring it to class everyday until one day this other girl noticed my markers. she was the 'bully' of the class, the tall, heavy, fat, ugly little chick all kids walked away when she was around. i was instead the little, skinny, friendly, nice girl. so this girl got aroudn to asking me all the time for her to use my markers and the trick was that when she asked me for them, i would say no, and when i said that, she woudl threaten me and i woudl have no other choice but to reply, 'ok..ok..' so it happened almost daily, and i had no choice. then one day, she came up again as usual, asked me for my markers, i said, 'no' (as usual) and she again (as usual) threatened me. i said again, NO, she even became aggressive, and asked again, and i kept on saying NO NO...it got to the point where she grabbed me by my shirt and pushed me agains the wall and practically told me to give her my markers. i was furious, and i began kicking and moving and screaming until she let me go. i dont remember what on earth i told her, but i completely scared the girl off me and from then on she never bothered me again. (i always ask myself, where on earth was the teacher when this happened!!)
so....! i rememebered this incident that occured to me long time ago and i began to notice how i am now. im the type, sweet and kind, easy going, fair, and social, but i notice when something isnt right or someone threatens me in any way in school or in the public, i immediatly react. i never ever let someone be unfair with me or with whoever im with. while sometimes my friends are scared of comfronting some issue with anotehr girl or at work or at school or whoever, im the opposite. i never look for a fight, ive never in my life gotten in a cat fight, but i have gotten a lot of respect from people because they realize the fair personality i have.
soo...in conclusion to your statement. my theory is..talking about your case, that i think...its not you how are you now in the present that tells you how you will be in the future. you already have your personality ingraved in you from your childhood and as you tell us, you obviously had a good one. deep inside of you, even unconsciously you are still the same as before, trust me...
its time for YOU to get back how once were, and thats easy, because you already have it. imagine how many people in the world have had horrible memories as childs and yet strive to have an easier future, im sure many have succeeded, but its not easy for them, instead for you its easy-done.
dont worry about the receding hairline..its just telling you, that your are growing into adulthood' thats about it, its not leaving you a tatoo telling you "you are ugly now". learn to accept your physical appearances as you grow, im sure there are many women out there that would find you very attractive, btw, you have your cute childhood appearance to prove it.
2007-02-16 17:40:28 · answer #3 · answered by sueet2b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sucks :( try smiling and laughing more! hang out with people that make you happy, that always makes me look good lol. i hate it when some people are naturally gifted with cute faces that arent pudgy at any time ..
2007-02-16 17:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats bad, I'm so much better looking then you
The ugly duckling is here today
2007-02-16 17:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
shave your head get some new cloths and enjoy life. someday you'll wake up and find yourself 40 ys old fat and balding.
2007-02-16 17:20:27 · answer #6 · answered by Bruce B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmmm? Where are you getting your info? Cause I think someone is doing some lying to you.
2007-02-16 17:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's...interesting?
2007-02-16 17:15:14 · answer #8 · answered by justagirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋