I have lived next to my neighbor for 2 years and have always watched her children for free at any given moment! She has great kids! But I just called and asked her to babysit my 3 and offered to pay her. My husband is out of state and I am just needing a little time to myself. It would have been from 6-10 p.m. and I would have fed them before bringing them over! Well she actually told me NO with no explanation! I feel let down and very used by her when I have watched her children dozens and dozens of times! Am I wrong for feeling upset? My children are very well behaved and are 10, 4 and 3!
2007-02-16 08:33:33 · 9 answers · asked by lil mami 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No sweetie, I would feel the same way you feel, she should realize what you have done for her without explanations, see you can't do for some people and expect to get that in return but if I was you I wouldn't babysit her kids anymore and the reason being is because she wouldn't do it for you so why waste your time trying to do things for her and she straight out said NO to you so when she ever ask you that if she does since she told you NO for your kids, then you tell her NO and this time you give her the reason why and that is that she wouldn't watch yours. So shake it off and find something fun to do with your kids or see can a family member watch them for you my dear. Don't be upset, I know this is a upsetting moment for you but shake it off and don't worry about it cause she never know what she may need from you. You are not wrong about feeling the way you feel.
2007-02-16 08:42:11 · answer #1 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she offered no explanation, doesn't mean she didn't have a reason why she could not watch them...
Why don't you discuss this with her over coffee soon and then let her know you'd like to take a few hours to yourself one day or evening and ask her when she would be available to watch your kids...that way you're leaving it up to her convenience and can better learn her attitude on the idea of reciprocating the childcare you've done for her.
2007-02-16 16:41:13 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow ,that wasn't nice of her . That is wrong of her to treat you like that . Just think she may be having a bad day or something and taking it out on you . She probably didn't mean to hurt your feeling . Just see later or tom . and see what was wrong with her watching your kids . If she was just being ignorant do not ever watch her children again .
2007-02-16 17:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would feel exactly the same. a lot of my friends are the same, maybe you could try dropping a subtle hint to her. just remember this when she wants a babysitter, dont let her use you. dont get me wrong, you dont do a favour and expect a favour in return but if youve had her kids a lot then she should really help you out. try the subtle hint and if she doesnt click on talk to her tell her how you feel.hugs.x
2007-02-16 16:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very selfish of her. Unfortunately, when we do favors for others, we are not always prepared for the consequence of them not doing them for us. Considering you offered to pay her, that says a lot. Granted, she chose not to provide you an explination which is interesting, I understand people have things going on in their lives. Perhaps your children act differently towards her when you aren't around?
2007-02-16 16:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by Brownie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that you really need a break and ask if she would mind watching them some other time.
2007-02-16 16:39:27 · answer #6 · answered by BooBoo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She didn't give a reason, BUT, she might have a reason! Just ask her nicely if there was another night that she might be able to watch them and see if she gives you a reason.
Good Luck!
2007-02-16 16:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
DONT EVER BABYSIT THAT INGRATES KIDS AGAIN. that is sooo rude. you are so incredibly right for feeling upset.
2007-02-16 16:45:47 · answer #8 · answered by summer girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you got every right to feel be trade,,i say may be you should show them how it feel to turn down
2007-02-16 16:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋