okay so i have a problem with who i am i used to be one of those girls that only wore hollister and abercrombie and who everyone liked but this year im "goth" or "emo" at least thats what everyone says about me all my ex bfs give me so much crap there say the most hurtful things and almost everyday i end up crying when i get home but the way i dress now i like i luv the guys i get i luv the ppl that i become friends with (no one at my school) but my best friend who just moved last year has this bf who HATES ppl like me and i wonder if i would just be better off being the person everyone wants me to be i mean i like hollister and abercrombie but i also like the way i am right now and my mom says "just be who you wanna be dont worry about ppl" but when i come home crying she says "well you choose to dress this way" and im so confused! i have no clue what to do anymore pls help me...
2007-02-16 08:22:40 · 10 answers · asked by rawrimadinosaur 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I've seen this problem at least a thousand times. You shouldn't worry about what other people think about you, because you dress this way to make YOU happy, not them. If their life is so boring that they have to get pleasure from making fun of you, then they're low & pathetic. Your mom is right, yet she's making it hard for you to understand. My mom does the same thing. I'm shy at school & girls make fun of me sometimes. She tells me I'm the one that's shy & I chose to be that way. Yet, she'll say that she wants to go up to the principle's office & talk about them bullying me. It's kinda like sending mixed signals. But anyways, I think you should try to make YOU happy & forget about everyone else. I think too many of us go through life changing ourselves to fit other peoples' standards & we're just hurting ourselves. I don't know how old you are, but I'm 11. School stinks for me, too, but you don't have to think that way. Ignore everyone elses' comments & be who you wanna be. Stop trying to make other people happy, 'cuz that never happens. No one is ever 100% satisfied with who you are. That's life. Good luck!
2007-02-16 09:15:58 · answer #1 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two words...be yourself!!! If you feel like dressing one way one day and another day the next that's your decision, not your friends. You want ppl to like you for who YOU are, not who they want you to be. And that's what you should stick by. If you change for them and they see that, they may wonder what else you would do to please others and you could get yourself into a bind. As far as your ex friends go, maybe they're snubbing you because they're caught in the "peer pressure trap" too. If others see you as differnet and they hang out with you, they may feel like they'll lose their "cool" status. Try to get these friends alone, in person, and tell them how much it hurts you when they do the things they do and you want your friendship back. If they're real friends they may open up and explain why they do what they do and try to reach some kind of understanding. And if they totally blow you off, even in private, then they're not your friends anymore, sorry to say. Good luck!
2007-02-16 16:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Liv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how u feel..my mom says the same things. (but.. i NEVER wore stuff like hollister.. no offense..) but it's prolly best if u just go with yourself, trust yourself, even if it's wrong, not everything bad comes out of doing bad things (i don't mean, go do drugs and kill yourself.. no) take a chance, sometimes you have to be someone else to see the real you, it may take a year, may take a week, but it will make you realize that you are who you are and no one can change that.
2007-02-16 16:30:19 · answer #3 · answered by i just wanna rock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be whoever you want to be, and don't get down when people give you trouble about it. It's only high school and it will be over before you know it.
Why does your best friend's boyfriend opinion matter to you? He's nobody to you. I wouldn't worry about it at all, sweetie. It's not worth the energy.
2007-02-16 16:27:24 · answer #4 · answered by Trisha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is right, be who you want to be.
You can't be two people, either be with your friends, or be by yourself.
If you follow your own heart, then everything will turn out fine.
WHo cares what other people think, are you trying to impress them?
Just live life, have fun, and be yourself!
2007-02-16 16:34:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what it's like to be teased and tormented. I've been teased my whole life. When I was younger I used to be so thin, I'd turn sideways and I'd disapear and girls would say things like oh she starves herself and other bs like that, so one summer, I ate everything I could to gain wait and you know what, I regret it. People are going to be mean no matter what, dont be someone to please other people just be whoever you feel more comfortable being, if people dont like it then tell them to go screw selfs
2007-02-16 16:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by clea_duvall_fan@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter who you appear to be, someone is going to criticize you for it. With that being the case, why not choose to be the person you are happiest with. At least then you can be proud of yourself.
2007-02-16 16:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by Greg H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can always combined the two styles together. thats what i do. you can wear hollister jeans, but also chucks and a studded belt at the same time.
2007-02-16 16:26:41 · answer #8 · answered by addie d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a person who need mental assistence
2007-02-16 16:31:21 · answer #9 · answered by cool dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Who am I?" is title of one of the Jackie Chan's movie.
It's a very good movie for family viewers.
2007-02-16 16:26:41 · answer #10 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋